r/MilitarySpouse

I’ve got 2 bachelor degrees in psychology and organizational leadership, and my MBA with a HR emphasis. We’re currently stationed in Kansas, USA, and believe me when I say there are minimal job opportunities that aren’t nursing, childcare, or part time. I’m fortunate to be working in business development for a non-profit right now, but feel I could be doing more, especially with my credentials.

What are we supposed to do, how are we supposed to maintain our own careers? I love my fiancé, but this is extremely frustrating, especially in the currently climate where remote work is limited. I’m NOT going back to school, at least not for the foreseeable future. 3 college degrees in the past 7 years is plenty.

I guess I’m just upset that they station servicemembers in the middle of nowhere so much. It would be great if I could find work equivalent to my education and experience, but all that’s available out here is farming, engineering, or extremely niche jobs that require specific qualifications or credentials.

I am looking to move my state of residence, DL and vehicle registration to my Husbands home state, Texas, while being stationed elsewhere. The Texas DPS website has exemptions for milspo to renew or replace DLs, but I was hoping someone here could help me decipher it.

https://www.txdmv.gov/sites/default/files/body-files/military-packet.pdf

Came across some concerning stuff on my husband’s phone between him and his LT as well as flirty photos of them together during their 7 month deployment. I feel so betrayed. We have talked about it but he just came back and I don’t want to make the reintegration hard. I’m so hurt. I don’t know how to navigate through this. During a TDY last year, I had a weird feeling about her and told him to be careful. I can’t believe he would do this to me with someone I voiced my concerns about. He does not believe he cheated.

I just wanted to hop on here to hopefully get some advice for long distance with my spouse online as he is leaving soon for a mission for couple months. We did long distance obviously during basic and AIT which was just fine but obviously this is the first time where he will have more freedoms, more responsibility, and obviously the circumstances are very different. I’m just very on edge as this will be my first time living alone, I’m just anxious about the situation he is in, and I won’t have his location more than likely so it’s just so much to unpack and the culture online makes me worry even more. It’s hard seeing the discourse online over the idea that all military men cheat. I see women in comments fight tooth and nail promising that it is not the case for them only to be met with hundreds of other comments degrading her and practically PROMISING that her husband is no exception. He’s never given me any reason to worry and I have access to his accounts but of course it’s hard to ignore all of the negativity online. Please give you your uncensored experiences and advice. By advice I’m talking what helped you and your spouse get through deployments/missions ? What struggles and challenges should I be aware of and how should I navigate them? Should I be worried and if I should why, and if I shouldn’t what helped ease your mind when you were in my position? Thanks!!

Hello! My husband is currently in A school, graduating next week. His orders to C school are from November 17 to February 5, so he has about 4 months until graduation. Most realistically, I know the most likely/realistic answer is to be patient because training comes first. I just wanted to see if there was anything I could do to be able to move with him, on or off base during that time or if anyone else has experienced anything similar? I hear of something called command sponsorship. He is O level aviation ordnance going to San Diego if that helps anything.

wow. this shit fucking sucks and i need to vent. God… so we moved to fl for my husbands school and he had today off. i was really excited. well someone did something and he had a 5am formation. now imagine my anxiety when i wake up at 6am and he’s out cold next to me. yup. his phone died and he missed formation. i hate where we are at so much and i don’t have any friends. i miss my mom and my dad so much and yeah my 16 year old brother is 16 and a teenager but he hasn’t wished me a happy birthday either. my husband got me coffee and flowers which was nice bc last year we didn’t do anything for my birthday… i flew out to see him and welp i cried. i’m crying now because i feel so lonely and what sucks is his birthday is tomorrow. i know im gonna go all out and celebrate like crazy. i just don’t get why people don’t put enough energy into me like i do them… my best friend hasn’t texted me yet either… yeah yeah i have a lot of shitty people in my life and i’m in therapy. i don’t really want yall to remind me. trust i know. i just wish i had a group of girlfriends to celebrate with and have a birthday party. i haven’t had one since i was 17 and it was in boarding school so i had my built in friends to go out with. i just get so disappointed every year and i can’t help but get my hopes up. sonyayayayayaayay happy birthday to me

Hi Everyone. My situation is a bit complicated. I’m waiting for the immigration process. And me and my husband is about separated for a year. I’m doing all the child care alone myself and I’m having a bad depression. My husband is doing cold violent and will just avoid communicating with me. He doesn’t involve in his child’s life. Actually when he left the country and he joined the navy that’s cause the separation. He was threatened to cut us off to control me but later then I called the Military family help resources then he agreed to pay child support. He afraid that would affect his career.
I feel like I’m making all the sacrifices but not being appreciated. He said he will pay us like a phone bill. I don’t know what to do with this. I feel very depressed and desperate. He claim us as dependents and getting all the benefits from us.
I’m living like a single mom under this name of marriage. I thought of divorce but I need to bring my kid back to the states to study. I need to be a legal resident to do that so I agreed to continue with my immigration status. Also I find him cheating behind my back with another woman. I’m so traumatized by him and over a year I didn’t have had sex. He used to pressure me to have annal sex and I refused to.
Anyone would give me any advice?
Please 🙏
My son just had a disease and has been difficult to take care of