SO joining US AF
Sort of out of the blue, a few months ago, my(f21) bf(20) (have been tg 3 1/2 years) told me he wanted to join the AF for the benefits for his future, ours, and our future children. He has a good paying job, but he does not want to work blue collar until he’s 60, which I understand. He has already began the process by talking to his recruiter, now studying for ASVAB. I am trying to be as supportive as I can, however everything I see and those who talk to me about it have been so negative. “A tale as old as time” or “we will see how that goes”. I guess because we are so young and have to do LDR, as I am in nursing school for 3 more years in our home state. (Can’t just leave the program and pick up elsewhere) and honestly that really gets me. I love him and see him as more than just my bf, he says we are going to get married, and I try to believe him and believe that it will all work out, but it’s so hard. And then he says he hopes he’s stationed in Japan… and I guess that just gets me too. I was upset about it and he was like why would you not want me to follow my dreams? And it’s not that I don’t want him to follow his dreams, I just thought his dreams were something totally else. I guess he is just realizing now what he wants(given we are young) but how can he realistically want that and us. I just am so overwhelmed. Like I truly pictured us married and living together and now idk what will become. I don’t want the last 3 1/2 years to be for nothing. We have been through so much together and I truly have always believed he is my person. Am I selfish? Am I naive? Am I too in love with him? Is there anyone who has been in a situation like this? And I know even if he wants to go to Japan, it could very likely not happen, but just the fact he is okay with being so far from me for so long, SUCKS. Like what about us?? Idk. Any advice is appreciated.