The correct way to grieve
I experienced a significant bereavement about 5 years ago. It’s a complex situation and also involved a lot of trauma. i am generally ok about it but when there are anniversaries and birthdays and other things like that I sometimes get waves of grief.
i feel like there are all these rules about how you’re supposed to grieve. Like I’m not supposed to grieve for this long or talk about my loved one or have emotions publicly.
for the record, i do have a psychologist i talk to and she doesn’t think there’s anything unusual about how I’m feeling. appropriate to talk through, not pathological.
but everyone around me wants to ignore and avoid. this includes my undiagnosed neurodivergent parents and all the NTs about the place.
can anyone enlighten me about the correctly masked way to get support? I‘ve been told explicitly that i’m grieving “weirdly” and I feel like I’m not getting support because I’m performing grief wrongly