My husband admitted to me that he has feelings for someone else. He denies being in love with her and denies anything physical has happened.
To give a bit of context - I have had a rough few years with lots of upheavals and I don’t have the most stellar mental health to begin with. I have been very distant, closed-off, and emotionally detached for a while. I don’t realize the extent of my actions until my husband asked for a separation.
He says that he needs time and space to figure out his feelings about this other woman. He says he trying to figure out if he has feelings for her because I was pulling so far away and he was lonely, or because he’s genuinely attracted to her, or because she validated his feelings of worth when I didn’t/couldn’t, or because it’s new and exiting.
I have taken the separation as a wake-up call and started to get my shit together. I have been more open and honest and vulnerable with him than I have been for the last five years.
I have told him that I love him, and am still in love with him, and want to make our marriage work.
It’s hard not to go down the rabbit hole and spiral over this revelation.
What are my chances that he chooses me?