u/AnimatorFew3616

In April of 2023 my lovely woman and I were on our way home from dinner to do adult activities. Our daughter was safely at home with her grandma. On our way to the house a woman drove straight into us on a curve right into our lane. We were in full gear and on my Z1000. It was a head on impact. My leg was shattered, femur broken, foot broken in 14 places, left hand shattered. Her femur was broken, her knee cap was sheared off, and her patellar tendon was mangled. We spent 36 days in the hospital and between us had 21 surgeries. We lost our careers, our selves, and nearly our home. Fast forward to today. Shes on disability now as she can no longer work. Has dealt with thyroid cancer, weight gain and depression. Me im back to work and getting through each day. The help I need is to get our sexual love life back on track. We have tried a few times but I end up hurting her. Im a Dom sexually and am quite aggressive in the bedroom. She used to melt in my hands. Now im terrified of hurting her. That instinct to protect her kicks in and I stop myself from even initiating. How can I get beyond this wall? What do i need to do to get the passion and fire burning inside me again? Has anyone dealt with a similar situation and overcame it? Im in desperate need of some kind of guidance here. Sorry for the Ted talk level post but im drowning and I dont know what to do.