u/Animymous

Hello,
Have read quite a lot of antiracist books, social justice themes, and generally books with race and civil rights as a key theme by Black authors.

I’ve read a lot of heavy stuff recently and I’d like to try some fiction that covers different themes around Black experience, particularly Black joy and love etc (not to say that there can’t be any mention of racism in there, appreciate that’s a big ask)

Any good suggestions out there?

Open to non-fiction and other suggestions by Global Majority authors too!

I’ve been doing therapy for over 5 years on and off and it has definitely helped a lot in understanding myself and having better boundaries, recognising how I show up in relationships and in exploring autism itself.

I admit I have no idea what models of therapy we have been doing - curious to know what models have worked for you and why/what have you focused on?

Recently diagnosed

Not sure if this is an autistic niche or just a way to help me navigate option overwhelm with basic life decisions

Eg. Meal planning. I actually love cooking and trying new foods but I get overwhelmed with meal planning and can’t always decide between the thousands of recipes out there, and also forget some of the things I’ve cooked before. If someone asked me what my go-to dish is to cook, I could maybe tell you one that I can do off by heart, even though there’s loads that I can cook!
To make choosing a recipe more ‘fun’ I sometimes use a random number generator to pick out a cookbook and then a recipe from that cookbook.

Generally works pretty well and gives me a bit of a dopamine hit (I suspect I have ADHD traits too and need to gamify some things). If it’s not a recipe I want then I move onto the next one.

I have a different method for picking TV Shows and movies. If I can’t decide what to watch I work down the IMDB top 250 systematically.

Obviously sometimes I’m in the mood for a particular thing or wanting a comfort show or hyperfixating, in which case I’ll go with that for a while, it’s more when I’m in between TV shows

I do categorise my books as well but tend to have so many that I always have a next one lined up…

Anyone else? 😅

Just a vent

I think I’m officially done with being in a hierarchy again, as well as being someone’s first poly experience

Trying to make time for somebody who has no capacity to give back or hasn’t figured out what they want out of poly is so draining.

Being at the same community event after a break-up where her primary can come with her for moral support whilst I go home alone is super emotionally confusing to process.

It’s hard processing this stuff as a secondary because I feel like in some way I shouldn’t even have feelings about it, or I should just fade into the background and never encroach my feelings onto the couple.

I know this is self-pitying, I just let myself get involved in a dynamic when I should have been more wary, just hurting and have no place to put it other than the internet.