u/Anirakkarina

Hi. I 33F and my husband, 33M have been married for 6.5 years, together for 8. We have 4 children who will be 6, 5, 3, and 1 by early October.

My husband has a difficult career (law enforcement) and runs on very little sleep. As you can imagine, it’s also stressful for me, because I work full-time remote, take care of my children (who are not in daycare) and even though I have a messy home, I am the one doing the dishes, cooking/meal prepping, making sure the laundry is sent out and put away, and more. I even throw out garbage, b it whatever.

Given that we were both highly stressed, we’re going through a difficult stage in our relationship and we’re not even talking right now. My husband tends to hold things in and he shuts down.

Does anyone have any advice on how I can make him feel respected and appreciated, beyond telling him? I tried to tell him often, but he doesn’t believe it because he doesn’t feel it. What is the secret to making a man feel appreciated?

TLDR: My marriage feels stressful. How do I make my husband feel respected and appreciated?

Hi. I am a 34 year old woman, who is obese after having four kids back to back from 2020-2025. I’ve been going through a spiritual transformation. I’m not sure how to explain this, but I feel as if God is calling me closer to Him via devotion in daily prayer as well as consistency in fitness.

Every single day I walk 1.5 to 2 miles. In addition, I do a 20 minute cardio workout every day except for Sunday. If I feel sore, instead of cardio, I will engage in a low impact recovery workout.

I’ve lost 16 pounds, and want to lose 53 more pounds. I am going nice and slow, and when I am on my walks, I want to attempt to run. But it feels so difficult. How can I work my way up to running? Currently I can walk a mile in 20 minutes. I’d like to be able to run a mile in 12 to 15 minutes.

Thanks in advance. It feels daunting.