Update: I finally talked to my gym crush and I’m emotionally spiraling in a good way and a bad way
TLDR; I’ve been noticing a guy at my university gym for a while and finally talked to him. Since then, we’ve had a few short interactions. I’m trying to figure out how to keep things normal without overthinking or making things awkward, and whether I should keep initiating or give him space to do it too.
Update to this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Healthygamergg/s/JKG06tFPQI
I’ve been looking at this guy at my gym for a while (let’s call him Zack). We would have glances and prolonged eye contact with each other, but I was always too nervous to actually talk to him.
Last Wednesday, I finally did.
I was already there with two mutual friends (David and Mary), and Zack was working out nearby. I kept waiting for a “natural” moment but realized there probably isn’t one, so I just approached him in the hallway and said, “Hey Zack, right?” Then I told him about our mutual friends and that I had seen him before but hadn’t introduced myself yet.
He extended his hand, shook mine, and asked what I was training; I said a full-body day. He said cardio. I said it was nice meeting him and I left after saying, “Have a good workout.”
The next day, I asked him again how his cardio session went, and he turned around and took his headphones off to talk to me. He said it was very much needed and asked me what I was working on again. I also asked him about a gym equipment, and he actually showed me how to adjust the machine. Later that day, he initiated by saying, “See ya later,” and waved. I waved back and said “See ya later”.
Since last week, we’ve had three small interactions that were all initiated by me (I wave at him when I pass by, and he waves back, but no talking by either of us).
So nothing huge, but it’s becoming more consistent.
The weird part is my emotional reactions. I feel happy after talking to him, but then I spiral a bit before and after talking, wondering if he is interested at all or just being polite.
I also try to do one workout a day in the area he is in and don’t know if this hovering is weird or not.
I guess I’m just trying to figure out how to keep this normal and not be weird. I don’t even know him that much yet, but my body is definitely reacting strongly.
I am just unsure if he is being polite since I have initiated five times as opposed to his one time. I don’t want to keep score, and I still don’t know if it’s because of the gym setting. I am sure he would like to focus on his workouts.
I still want to talk to him, flirt, and see him outside the gym.
Do I need to keep initiating for a while to keep rapport and should I give him space to feel comfortable initiating too?