u/Annjapanja

I’ve been thinking a lot recently and I truly prefer domming men who don’t see themselves as losers or pathetic. Sometimes the degradation gets so intense that it really feels like the sub might be soooo pathetic it’s embarrassing I’m even speaking to them. And if they feel that way I think the best course of action is sending without being seen.

I have and always will prefer subs who are good looking, successful, and confident. I love the thrill of scrolling their profile and seeing how normal they are and how they have gone out of their comfort zone for me. How they feel drawn to me specifically. When they admit to watching me and finally approaching with confidence yet still remaining humble.

They don’t feel embarrassed about their emotions even though they may feel confused. The best ones are eager to learn and I can’t help but get turned on by the fact that they’ve been dominant in every other capacity/ relationship and here they are on their knees for me. Any sub who indicates being embarrassed of their desire to serve me immediately turns me off. But this breed of men the don lead with shame the just aim to please me and it always seems to come so naturally which is so delicious.

They don’t feel dirty they feel excited. The chemistry is palpable and rare and it’s so damn sexy. The money is there to show respect and service but the tension is what has my brain going into overdrive and thinking about all the ways I can mold them into the perfect toy.

These dynamics are what keep me coming back to findom and the rest of the “losers” are just what keep me entertained in the meantime. I feel like one day I’ll probably keep one of my perfect toys forever the dynamic is just too intoxicating.

I’ve seen a few dommes talking about how being transparent about their interests and hobbies really helps build awesome connections between subs and I’d truly just love to hear more about how people are bonding and also what cool interests dommes/subs have.

I love to read, I am very into architecture and interior design, I’m eager to learn more about art especially art history, I dabble in some cozy video games, and I LOVE to chat with people. Learning is one of my favorite things so hearing people talk about their passions is my favorite.

I hope this has a place here and would love to talk to anyone with common interest or a unique interest that you think is interesting! Maybe even through the comments subs/dommes can find some common ground

Call me crazy or maybe this is something dommes typically look for but I never used to care about timezones until recently.

I’m a busy girl graduating college focusing on some big life changes but I miss spending time with fun subs (key word being fun) and have had some approach recently but they are in time zones that make it virtually impossible for me to have a functioning dynamic with them as well as like a normal sleep schedule.

And as fun as the kink is I don’t sacrifice my sleep schedule for anyone. And I don’t mean like a few hours past my bedtime I mean like it seems we are on complete opposite schedules. Is this something you guys look for or something I should sort of start warning subs against? Like I don’t care if they aren’t looking for a long term dynamic it’s no problem but for long term subs feels like certain timezones are destined for failure.

I’ve seen some dommes make applications and I’m thinking about doing the same and letting them know the time zone preference.

Do you guys have any advice with this or ways you handle it better because I’m about tapped out.