r/findomsupportgroup

they spend all day complaining in their stupid support group. if they don’t actually want to submit, why can’t they be useful by upvoting our posts? or by following us on our other platforms and engaging there?

on twitter, there are RT subs who find ways to be useful even if they don’t intend to serve financially. i haven’t seen any subs on this app even mention upvoting dommes posts to help our engagement/reach.

i just think the “subs” on this app are entirely useless. i’ve been on multiple platforms for over a year and reddit has the worst “subs” by far.

and sorry not sorry but part of the problem is all the dommes who coddle subs and scream “pick me!” in the comment section of subs’ posts 🤦🏻‍♀️

I know I’ll probably get a surplus of messages from people who are about to waste my time but I’m genuinely SICK of people reaching out to ME asking for payment details and then disappearing the second I provide exactly what they asked for.

Like… what is the psychological payoff here? 😭 Do some of you actually get off on pretending you’re about to send just to get someone’s attention, reassurance, or reaction? Pathetic.

Because reaching out & initiating the interaction…asking for payment information…receiving said information, and then immediately blocking or disappearing isn’t normal communication.

It’s attention seeking, avoidance, and weird as fuck wasting someone else’s time for your own little ego boost.

If you don’t intend to follow through simply don’t fucking ask. 😭

I was just wondering, what are all of your opinions on what findom is? I just want to understand the ins and outs of how this derives any sort of pleasure, and what makes it sexy? I’m doing it for research on some writing I’m doing.

I swear I hear about a new app, platform, or tool for findom every other day.

The community feels so spread out now that being active on just one platform doesn’t seem to work anymore. And every new platform comes with the same posts: “This is the best platform ever!” or “Made XXX on my first day!”

At this point I’m wondering if everyone is actually using all these platforms, or if we’re just constantly chasing the next “best” one.

Do you guys feel like the community is too fragmented now?

Ive never had a sub take on new work or surprise me like this :")

Recently, I had conversation with a lovely gent about our kinks and where they came from. He could identify exactly where each of his kinks originated, except his findom kink. That one was elusive for him.

I know the precise moment the findom switch flipped for me. That moment burns brightly.

Where did it start for you? Can you pinpoint it? 🖤

Chef Carmy - I wanna boss him around a tight kitchen over Seven Fishes

James J Sexton - Lawyers make the best subs because they’re usually high strung, misogynistic dick heads in real life who love being called out / turn to warm flan in playtime. OR they’re simpy non-profit types who just love abuse. Honestly, I’d make him tell me crazy stories from his career and give him the occasional ball kick I know he likes.

Madonna - I feel like Madge could really take a strappin and tell me a funny joke at the same time.

E from Entourage - I enjoy a zesty, slightly neurotic ginger with a smartass comeback waiting in the wing at all times.

Ed Sheeran - speaking of… I’d pick very complicated recipes from my culinary school cookbook to watch him make while naked in a very cold kitchen. Watching Ed Sheeran get flustered is actually nature’s SSRI, idk if anyone told you yet.

Samantha Jones in her lesbian era - the only time she was actually simpy (I do not count any Richard bs)

Al Gore - I’d make him wear those slutty little shorts from the 90’s I know he still has

Oh and I’d have Jacob Elordi dress up like Princess Peach for shits and giggles.

Jacob Elordi - I’d wanna get a running start and jump off a springboard like I’m a Harlem Globetrotter

Dermot Mulroney - this man is in everything so might as well everything in the man.

Joe Rogan - he’s already prepped and knows the best lube for lasting glide.

Jared Leto - I feel like he’d hold still and maintain eye contact, fuckin creep

Chris Petrone on insta/tt - a niche selection.

Russel Brand - I’d name the strap “firework” and exclusively play I Kissed A Girl over and over until he snaps

Sasha Baron Cohen - I’m a sucker for tall and funny. The way he commits to the bit, shows real chutzpah. He’d have to bring his glorious wife with him.

Tom Hardy - he continuously gives mmf

Gavin Newsome - he’s hot, bratty af, and seems very hygienic. There’s a slight JFK kink here but I won’t explain further.

The ensemble cast of the first Magic Mike installment - I’d make them stand in a row, starting with Mcconaughey.

Ethan Slater - weird little SpongeBob dingus

Daniel Radcliffe - I’ve only seen one of the HP movies (the last one. I was drunk on a date and had no idea what the fuck was happening) but I honestly enjoy all his other movies I’ve seen. “You walk a mean dog” (points if you can name the movie). Or that movie where he played a bloated corpse? Fantastic role choices. I know it’d be a 10/10 peggin

Hugh Grant - I just know he’d make me laugh and grumble-gossip with me.

Willem Dafoe - but only if he does the Green Gobblin voice the whole time

James Spader - old Black List Spader, not young Baby Boom Spader. I’d request orchids be present (iykyk)

Hunter Biden - elaborating from yesterday’s post.

Timothee Chalamet - he’s dying for it but I’d have to use extreme vocal fry to help him relax and feel familiar.

I feel like I’m forgetting so many but here’s what I can conjure for now.

How about you? Any creative ideas?

Im actually quite curious on some dommes inputs on FetLife and any experiences you may have with it & if you enioy the site as a whole.

I just started mine back up again and I did find one sub off there so far, its just about luring them away to discord/ x / other platforms.

if you are a dominant and have experience with FetLife, tell me how was your experience like!

Just got $1000 to fart 😂

Why are there so many subs that seemingly cant read. I tell them im online only and they ask to meet, i tell them i require a tribute and they ask if i can let it slide for them. Im more than happy to negotiate dynamic and kink related stuff but tribute and my safety are limits and they will be respected.

sorry for venting, thank you for listening. just feeling discouraged.