r/findomsupportgroup

Soooo my best piggy has sent me over $11k in a few months. Should I hide the leaderboard? I feel like other boys might feel scared of competing with whalesub? Or should I keep it and flex this big number like its a jewel in my crown? What do you think?

Yesterday i had the longest day so i decided to take a bath, light some candles and relax. Then i felt what i really needed was to get into a session with a sub and feel the boost from that. Honestly the thought of being in the bath while someone was serving me turned me on really bad.

All of this looks like an amazing situation but theres one problem, i dont have any sub that i can randomly text to come please me when i want. I was so used to this long term things and now that i dont have it im a bit lost.

I still took some pics to fill the void but it didnt feel like i wanted…

So if anyone has been in any situation like this, what do you do to reach subs fast? Do you plan this things? Where would be appropiate to post this things?

(I know finding a sub takes time and patience, im not talking about those. Im talking about the horny pigs that once you finish with them they are gone and probably deleted their account)

I’m having a hard time being pointed in the right direction, there are sooo many strong sexy women here and I want to learn… if anyone can give any advice I’d genuinely appreciate it. And how long did it take to build a following , quality over quantity? I have so many questions!! DM me or reply on here . I have like 9 days to make rent!! Please tell me your secrets!! Xoxo

Hey everyone, I wanted to open up a discussion about something that keeps happening, and honestly, it’s getting a bit frustrating. Why do guys always run away right after a proper drainage? If there's a sub here I would love to hear your thoughts too! Today, I had a session where I made a broke college student go $300 into debt. I mean, in the grand scheme of things, it’s really not an astronomical amount of money, and to be completely honest, I wasn't even that rough on him. During the session, he was absolutely crazy for me, totally into it. 10 mins in he completely bounced. Blocked me. I feel like every time I successfully drain a sub, they just ghost right after. Is there anyone out there who actually gets a chance to do proper aftercare with their subs? Or is post-nut clarity / financial regret just that strong that they panic and delete everything? I’d love to know if this is just normal territory for findom, or if any of you have found a way to actually get them to stick around for the aftercare they usually desperately need. Drop your thoughts below!

this one, ugh it did something for me.

This pathetic boy is in my DMs telling me how weak he is for anime censors, not to mention the other information I squeezed out of his horny brain, he is a true to form beta. They're quite the find, a self aware one too!

That is where our story begins, telling me how desperately he wants to subscribe to my OF page. Only one small problem...my OF page is NOT beta safe. It has live clips of me orgasming from my camming days, lots of nudity. So we decided the only fair option for a beta to subscribe to a non-beta safe page, was if the beta had to pay more than others for the same access. How much more? We landed on 6x.

He was to send 6x the cost of my OF page (compared anyone that isn't a loser) and I would DM him a private link to redeem for 1 free month.

Beta makes the send on Throne. I told him betas absolutely do not deserve access to see me orgasm on my OF. He thanked me for scamming him from his money and denying access to my OF page.

Now offering consensual scamming services 😂😈

I’ve had a few paypigs hit me up in my DMs asking if they can send me money and be their domme. Ive never tried a findom/Paypig dynamic before, but I am interested. How do I approach this because I’m not totally sure about the dos and donts.

This is no hate to others but I’m confused as I would say a beginner in this field.. are we (ofc do what you want) saying tribute first or are we doing Q&A with the sub first? We obviously have to know the boundaries , their kinks , safe words etc but how do we know that they aren’t wasting our time ?

An intro tribute isn't about the money. Well, it is, but that's not the point of it.

It exists because your time and attention have value, and the dynamic needs to establish that from the very first interaction. Someone who pays to say hello has already demonstrated two things: they understand how this works, and they're willing to put action behind their interest.

It also functions as a filter. The people who push back on an intro tribute, negotiate it, or disappear when they see it mentioned are telling you exactly who they are. That information is free and it saves you hours of back and forth with someone who was never going to pay anyway.

How to implement it:

💰 State it clearly in your bio or pinned post. Not as an apology, not buried in a paragraph. The amount is up to you but it should be enough to feel meaningful, not a token gesture.

💰 Don't negotiate it. Ever. The moment you create exceptions you've undermined yourself.

💰 Don't explain or justify it to people who question it. "That's how I work" is a complete sentence.

The intro tribute isn't a barrier to genuine subs, you're not missing out on the "real ones" by requiring it.

Curious how others handle this - do you have an intro tribute set up, and has it changed how you filter time wasters?

I let my sub out of his chastity cage for the first time in a year and instructed that he could touch himself so long as he didn’t ejaculate. He didn’t listen, so since he decided to drain himself, I’ll be draining his wallet 🥰 any tips for a first drain session? I want to lay out terms and conditions before we begin.

I honestly didn’t expect the psychological side of it to be this hot, but watching someone willingly hand over control and then mentally unravel over it does something to my brain. Now I keep craving more subs to try it with because every reaction is different and somehow they all end up shaking anyway

I used to be a findomme but i only really had one paypig, i decided i want to come back but i definitely would prefer to have paypigs irl this time, its a much hotter dynamic to me, is it common for findom to look like this? If so how should i start looking for a paypig near me and how to stay safe during this process?

I want to make a sub my makeover project.

Like an early 2000’s rom-com.

I wanna teach them how to enjoy their money better than they are right now.

I wanna style them based on their features - pick out all their clothes. Get em a new hairstyle. Teach them how to not use the same bar of soap on their face as they do their balls. Teach them about watches 😍

I wanna send em on trips or experiences so they can send me dirty pictures wherever I direct them to

I wanna pick restaurants and dishes at those restaurants for them to try.

They pay for it all and I get the verbal/photographical/social media proof they’re following my instructions. It’d be extra hot for them to tag me in their IG stories and hide the tag so only the two of us know why they’re there and who the fuuuuck sent em 😌

They’re not allowed to say no (within reason, obviously) without trying what I suggest first. They’d have to trust the process.

I typically charge thousands to do this for people in my vanilla day business but I don’t get the kink or fun little add-ons like being worshipped, gifted, and adored (at least, to my knowledge lol)

I don’t want to include degradation - this would be a positive and fun experience.

Thoughts?

Spoke with a new (new to me) sub last night, that has had four other dommes before me. While I was going through my typical list of questions for about 30 minutes, he told me that out of alldommes he has spoken to no one but me has asked him about his safeword, boundaries, limits, risks, and expectations.

Dommes, are you skipping formal negotation? If so, why?

Sub, how thorough of a negotation process have you been through or was it completed skipped?

I know it’s coming… I expect it… but I’m always SO disappointed when it happens.

My IRL sub was bringing me his key this weekend, we had everything all set, we were both so excited and then it all got too exciting and he masterbated today. Within 15 minutes, he sent me a long text about how he was sorry for wasting my time and can’t do this.

I’m not surprised, but I’m actually so bummed. I love talking to him and we have a great time when we hang out.

Ughhhh 😭