How does going out with other couples make you feel?
My wife has been on the menopause train for a while and like most of you know the affection stops, a rub on the shoulder, a kiss, sex… becomes a thing of the past. As much as I can deal with those demons what always feels like tearing open an old wound is hanging out with other couples. I’m 7 years younger than my wife and have a younger group of friends naturally. When we all get together for BBQs, beach day, dinner at a restaurant etc it’s usually with couples, and by nature they cuddle, few kisses… whatever but deep inside it feels like it’s just a black hole pulling you back remembering how great things used to be. I guess a part of me wishes she’d also see how they show affection and think maybe I’d like to feel an ounce of it. Now we still do those things together without other couples but it’s just the same old story. I’ve always been an affectionate person, love to bond by just holding onto each other so this has been the hardest part - thinking that this is just a me thing and I need to let it go.
In sickness and in health till death do us part I did agree too, but I didn’t sign up to be alone for the next 10 years either.