u/Annonomys123987

Dying a slow death over here with my high sex drive and my boyfriend’s low sex drive. He sure loves looking at videos of naked women and sex though. The low sex drive is quite literally eating me alive. We’re home alone majority of the day and nothing. Kissing on me, loving me, but nothing sexually. We’ve had this talk plenty. He’s tired, this that and everything under the sun. He sure is very active and awake to watch videos but not me who could have sex multiple times a day and have his way with me any which way. I AMMMmmmm tiREDdDd of it.

After finding out my boyfriend watched porn as soon as I left the house (per usual) I just felt really sick. I brought up to him about it. We had an in depth conversation. He said he has been trying his best to not masterbate to porn but does sometimes just watch videos for the dopamine rush. I explained there’s healthier ways to cope with life and he said sure but it could be worse like a drug or alcohol addiction. I said that’s a very bad comparison. He said I’m making him feel criticized for something all men do. Yes, most do, single men maybe married men whose wives withhold , that’s not the case here. I’m always willing. He said it’s just habit for him. I said I’m worried more so about long term effects to his mental. He didn’t seem combative to this conversation but I’m sure felt some way. We ended the conversation on a good note but I’m feeling like the true meaning in this didn’t get across and this behavior will continue. Did I handle that well? Or should I have been more stern? I know it’s nothing against his feelings for me but solely on his coping with life stress, work stress etc. he watches porn daily, majority he’s not getting off to it, just looking. Am I doing too much here? I don’t mind porn, we watch together but I hate it’s his coping mechanism and he literally does it as soon as I leave for work or just to go out. Idk..

I have posted before about what I believe is a porn addiction my boyfriend has. Everyday he is looking at sexually videos of couples, although he may not get off to them, he still watches them. Especially the days he comes home from work and I’m not there. This does interfere with our sex life, as it’s definitely not as wild or frequent anymore but he says he loves sex with me, he’s just tired I also always initiate and I have stopped that lately.
so, for some side notes, he’s had two very big losses in his life within a year of each other. Very traumatic. I often wonder if this addiction is very much stemming from that, needed that dopamine fix, that rush. It’s also a routine he’s had for years before we started dating.
I would like to talk to him tonight but unsure if I should lead in more of a way I think he would definitely benefit from therapy and how it would strengthen our relationship, etc. or, truly come from a standpoint of how defeated I feel in this situation for months now I’ve expressed it. Just yesterday I got home from work, I asked if he came, he said yes. Just really bummed me out. He was literally seeing me in three hours. I’m very sexually active. I love it, all ways, anything and everything. I don’t know how to approach this and I’m just hoping this doesn’t turn into a “rolling of eyes” and I don’t have a problem type conversation and now hes “annoyed” with me. I don’t know. Please help me bring this situation up in an appropriate way and what would get across to him the best.

Just had sex with my boyfriend, he goes to the bathroom ten minutes after for a long time, comes out and falls asleep. I checked his phone and he was on Reddit looking up porn videos. Why? I don’t understand..
add to note: he’s constantly looking at videos and pictures of women, every day on here, doesn’t always beat off to it, but everyday he’s on here watching videos. He doesn’t comment or like or “overstep” in any way but I don’t get it. We’re suppose to get engaged soon and I’m just so uncomfortable with this.

Is brello not a thing anymore? Lmao. I’ve been off Tirzepatide since July. I was looking to get back on. Loved the $250 a month deal from Brello because I was able to stretch for about three months. Now they don’t offer that, it’s $500 for three months but I don’t see as much talk about it anymore and almost positive it’s not really on the pinned list.

Do any of you see a therapist? Has it helped tremendously? Pros and cons? My boyfriend three years ago lost his mother and just a year ago lost his father to a heart attack, both unexpected, both he witnessed their death and last words. They were in their 60’s, very traumatic for him. He never saw a therapist, claims he is strong to deal with it. But I’ve been seeing alot of habits he’s creating that are seeping into our relationship such as porn use instead of intimacy with me, started vaping, etc. Would really love for him to talk to someone instead of suppressing a lot.

I am a teacher, this week is teacher appreciation week. My boyfriend of one year just wished me a happy teacher appreciation week, no flowers, small gift, little card. I don’t know, it really upset me. I go all out for him in the big and small. Why isn’t that returned. Is this worth a conversation? To be loved is to be seen, to be known. Am I overreacting here?

My boyfriend constantly looks up videos and pictures of naked girls, follows a lot of Reddit groups involving “porn” he says sex with me is great and the best bj he’s ever had but he never initiates it with me. Today I was denied three times because he was tired, but he’s never tired to jerk one or look at pictures. I always want sex, everyday, or at least giving him a blowjob everyday. If I didnt initiate, I swear we would probably never do anything sexual. I think he would prefer taking care of himself but when we weren’t living together, our sex was often and passionate. Now, I often notice he’ll jerk off before I come home or after I leave for work, it’s frustrating and maybe a mad point of view would help me. He’s very loving towards me daily and proposing soon.