I (F24) need outside perspective on a situation with my boyfriend (M26) because I feel confused and anxious about it. A few days ago, I went through his phone and saw a call log involving a contact I didn’t recognize. When I checked the details, I noticed the number had been saved and then later blocked, and the chat settings showed disappearing messages (24-hour auto-delete). When I asked him about it, he said it was a work-related issue and that nothing inappropriate happened. At first, I tried to believe him.
However, something still didn’t feel right to me, so I later saved the number and looked it up. The results suggested that the number may belong to a woman who could be an escort (I can’t confirm this for sure, but that’s what came up). When I brought it up again, his explanation changed slightly. He said she called him first, that he didn’t know what she did for work, and that he called her back. Later, he also said he doesn’t really remember the calls or what was said.
The issue for me is that his explanations keep changing, and I’m not getting a consistent or clear story. This is making me feel anxious and unsure what to believe.
My question is has anyone gone thru this? And if so how did you navigate this situation?
Any advice or perspective would really help.