I recently got out of an abusive relationship, that was both emotional, and psychological. I realized I was in this after that he sent me a long message about how disrespectful I was and how my tone was all wrong to him for bringing up a plan, calmly that we've talked about the night before.
I'm 26 and he is 48. We both are in the dance social scene and he is well known for his career and success in it. He has a very extroverted personality and charm, in which many women fall for. We have been on and off for over a year, and every time we broke up, it was "my fault".
There were some moments that were great, but after my memories started being un-suppressed by the trauma and anxiety being in that relationship, I realized that I was being gaslit, manipulated, silenced, devalued, was being sexual and financial coerced and more. I'm okay with going into more details if needed. I currently increased the number of sessions I have with my therapist from once every 2 weeks to now twice a week and my friends are my support system, helping me stay safe and stay sane.