aitah for refusing to apologize
my dad has 2 kids from his ex wife and 3 kids with my mom. i’m currently not speaking to one of my half brothers because he accused me of being a liar and said i “admitted” to lying during a conversation with my mom.
basically, i told my mom that i didn’t know what he was talking about or what specific time he meant when he and i supposedly spoke on the phone. my half brother then told her that me saying “what time?” was basically an admission that i lie and manipulate things. i genuinely had no clue what he was referring to.
the thing that’s frustrating is he refuses to actually give me examples of these times i supposedly lied, but apparently he tells our other brothers that it’s happened on multiple occasions. so i’m being labeled a liar over situations i can’t even properly address because no one will actually tell me what i supposedly did.
i honestly don’t feel like i’ve done anything wrong, but another one of my brothers keeps pressuring me to apologize anyway because our oldest brother is upset. he keeps telling me that “sometimes you have to admit to things you didn’t do to keep peace in the family.”
i told him i don’t think i should have to call someone and falsely confess to being a liar just to make everyone comfortable. he keeps giving me emotional arguments like “what if something happens to mom and dad someday, all you’ll have is your siblings” or “what if something happens to your husband.” basically saying family is all we have and i should just swallow my pride.
but to me it’s not really about pride. it’s about not wanting to admit to something i genuinely don’t believe i did just to satisfy someone older than me. especially when this brother is 18 years older than me and already seems to have this fixed idea of my character.
aitah for refusing to apologize just to keep the peace?