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As long as I can remember my mom has struggled with drug addiction and alcoholism. She was sober from alcohol and was only using prescription drugs as prescribed. Recently I became aware she was drinking again, and abusing ketamine which she is prescribed for mental health issues. She is 70 years old and has stage 4 kidney disease so likely not long off from needing dialysis. She lives about 3 hours south of me. I have offered to have her move in with my wife and I so we can help her and "babysit" her and get also get her into a rehab and she's very resistant. She says she's going to go to an outpatient program on her own. She's done this program once before, and was sober for maybe a year. She also had a suicide attempt in 2017. My choices as I see them are to threaten or try to force her to move in with my wife and I either by saying I will not talk to her anymore or try to force a conservatorship. Or I can just leave it alone and let her continue to ruin her life. I think trying to force her to move in with me will make her totally lose it and freak out so I am not really considering that anymore. I also don't really want to have a relationship with her anymore due to the fact that my wife and I are trying to have a kid and I don't need her drama in my life. I am leaning toward just cutting her out of my life and letting her know I'm not interested in talking or seeing her anymore at this time. That option also seems really harsh. Both of these "options" seem strong and both I think will have negative outcomes. I'm not sure what to do or what other options I have. Other than continuing to trying to support her from far and deal with her lying and abusing drugs and alcohol.