u/AnonFrog700

Hi, I’m 26 F and my boyfriend, 31 M have been together about 3 years. I feel like he’s been having some issues with the relationship because this is his first long term one. I’ve caught him a few times messaging girls before we got together or shortly after when we weren’t official about uncircumcised dicks and he would talk about getting kicked in the balls. Apparently that is a kink thing but I recently saw him on a site for those kinks and he’s been messaging girls again asking for them to kick him in the balls. He’s never met up with them but I find it so odd. I think it’s cheating, but I don’t think he does. I think he believes it’s kinda like porn, which I believe porn is ok to an extent but I think it’s another level when he’s messaging girls on this kink site. When I asked him about it, he just says he doesn’t know why he does it and he knows he has a problem. I don’t really know what to do. I’ve told him he needs therapy if we continue dating, but even then I don’t know if I should stay or not. Has anyone dealt with anything similar?