My 19M 19F Girlfriend wants to talk to her ex, how am I supposed to handle this situation?
Basically context I don't want to talk to people that know us because I don't believe in smearing each other's name and things should be handled privately, but I really don't know what to say.
Now I know I'm not the most reliable narrator and I could be painting her in a bad way even tough I'm trying to be as objective as possible so please take everything I say with a grain of salt. I do love her a lot and we've had a very healthy relationship so far.
My girlfriend is going through a hard time because of exam season at uni right now. We've talked a bunch about this and she's EC-ed some of her exams. Before we met she had this really toxic ex that wasn't even a relationship, he was ghosting then being really nice. The usual toxic stuff.
Now go back to yesterday she asks me randomly what would you do if your so talked to an ex and I told her straight up I'd lose trust and probably break up because I really don't agree with ex's being friends and she knows this. She then lies to me about wanting to talk to an ex. I don't believe her and fast forward to today she reopens the conversation with like what if you talked about something personal that you can't say to your boyfriend. I told her talk with your boyfriend, family or therapist and stop lying to me. She then tells me about how she's having it rough right now and he was a great listener and even his highs and downs he made her feel good about herself. We had a long talk about all of this and she said she won't talk to him because she knows I don't want her to. She also apologised and said that now that she thought about it she realises that thinking of someone when you're down it's not a good sign. She did insist that it was never anything romantic just more of that she was so used to him being there when she was so down.
Now I don't really know what to think about this entire thing as she does push me away when it gets to more personal subjects as it's a really depressing subject for her (for personal reasons I will not mention on reddit). Now I was really upset by this, and we've made up since but I'm still a bit uncomfortable. and don't really know what to think. Any advice from more experienced people?