Jealousy over husband's past relationships
I've never dated anyone besides my husband. He was my first love at 25. I made a commitment to save sex for marriage and stuck with it. I always knew me husband had a past, but I never asked him for details. I never asked who he was with or how many sexual partners he had. We've been married almost 9 years and it hasn't been much of an issue, although I always wonder which of his exes that he occasionally speaks to are people he slept with. I have some insecurity around him keeping these people in his life.
Recently he has been looking back on old pictures from before we met. He has warned me that there are pictures of him with other girls on there but I can't resist looking over his shoulder. When he notices, he'll say "there's me with so and so". I can't help but be a little jealous and kinda hurt that he feels the need to keep those pictures around. He says it's his past and those people were part of it, so he doesn't wish to erase it. I have on multiple occasions said something about the girls in the photos that has caused a fight.
I feel that I keep messing up and I don't know how to fix it. I'm trying to use the skills from the Surrendered Wife but he isn't even noticing because apparently the things I'm saying are so upsetting to him.
Example:
Him: "Here I am with Angie." Arm around her in the photo
Me: "oh, Angie? The friend you were going to meet up with when we were first dating?"