Prioritizing QPR but also having romantic partnership?
I'm in the middle of discussing my relationship with someone who there's a lot of mutual love with and a desire to prioritize over other relationships, but both of us want to potentially date other people in the future.
I was hoping for some advice on balancing the needs of multiple partners while centering a qpr.
For those that don't see themselves as using a hierarchy of any kind, how do you handle it when your partners have equally valid and important but conflicting needs?
For those that do use a hierarchy that centers a qpr, how can you make sure everyone feels respected and loved while knowing that your qpp does come first in an emotional equivalent of the trolley program? Is this ethically possible?
If both options are possible to be done ethically, how do you decide which works better for your relationships?
Are there people out there talking about this kind of relationship structure (qpr at the center with romantic partners as part of the relationship constellation)? Books I can read? Anything that will help me wrap my head around how to do this in a way that meets everyone's needs?
I'm also asking in the polyamory sub (this feels tangentially related to their interests even though I only desire one romantic partner) but if you know of any others that would be a good fit too let me know!