Trying to keep it halal — am I overthinking this interaction?
Salam everyone,
Wanted some honest advice because I’m trying to approach this in a respectful/halal way and not read too much into things.
I came across a girl on LinkedIn who works at a company I’m genuinely interested in. I reached out initially because I had questions about the role, team, and culture (so there was a real professional reason for reaching out).
When she replied on LinkedIn, instead of suggesting Zoom/Teams/Google Meet (which I feel like most people do for networking chats), she actually offered her phone number. We moved the conversation there and she ended up answering all my questions and was genuinely kind and helpful.
Now I’m conflicted.
Part of me thinks she was simply being nice and professional and I shouldn’t read into it. Another part of me wonders if offering a number upfront instead of keeping it on LinkedIn or scheduling a meeting is more personal than usual.
To be clear — I’m not trying to play games or pretend the work questions weren’t genuine. I actually did want career insight. But I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t also curious whether she could potentially be someone I’d want to get to know in a halal way for marriage. She is within age range etc
For now I’m keeping everything professional and don’t want to give off signs or make her uncomfortable.
Questions:
- Is offering a phone number for networking chats actually normal?
- Am I overthinking this?
- If eventually I wanted to express interest, what’s the most respectful/halal way to do that without making her feel misled?
JazakAllah khair.