r/ShiaMuslimMarriage

Last year, I posted on here a couple of times and met two men.

1- Canadian who lied to me about his entire background but hired a private investigator to look into my life. I had to report him to the police in his area because of how creeped out I was.

2- Iranian American based on the east coast. I had to let the authorities know because be found so much about me and kept messaging me off of other apps. He was also talking to about 20 other women and we all found one another.

It’s now been more than a year since I talked to either of them and I get pranks calls 2 times a day, once at 11 am and once at 5 pm EST. The calls are of a man laughing. This has been going on for months.

I’m not looking for further solutions, but even if you meet in person, you can’t trust anyone. Be cautious. There are good people in this thread but and there’s only so much the MODs can do. But be smart. Smarter than me.

I am 33 and have been living in Germany since my teenage years. I am originally from Saudi Arabia and very connected to my roots. I have a BA in humanities and working towards a masters degree.
I am optimistic and compassionate and value honesty and respect. I like to work out and be in nature, I am a spiritual person and moderately religious. I am divorced with one child whom I have custody of so if that’s a deal breaker, don’t bother contacting me.
I am looking for a kind, dependable, god fearing man between 25-42 who’s well educated and cultured and loves Allah as much as I do. I prefer someone who lives elsewhere in North America or Australia or even another country in Europe because I’d love a change but it’s also alright if my husband wants to join me in Germany instead.
I am open to all ethnicities and cultures as long as our values are compatible.
I don’t mind someone divorced or with children but I am not open to polygamy.
I also would like to have more children god willing.

Salam, I’m posting on behalf of my sister. She’s 24, Iraqi, 161 cm and around 53 kg. She wears hijab, is religious, educated, ambitious, and family-oriented. She speaks Arabic, English, and Turkish, and studies Business Administration in English. She’s also interested in UI/UX, tech and psychology.

She doesn't mind moving to another country.

She’s looking for a practicing Ithna Ashari Shia man, single, mature, ambitious, responsible, and serious about marriage. Religious compatibility is very important to her, especially raising future children on the path of Ahlulbayt (ع).

If you feel you may be a good match, feel free to DM me.

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السلام عليكم؛ انا شاب عمري 25 سنة متوظف ومقتدر ماليا ومن عائلة غنية ولله الحمد، من تالي بدت فكرة الزواج تصير هاجس؛ ولله الحمد ربي أرشدني الى بيت مستعدين انهم يزوجوني بنتهم ذات ال 16 عام. ما رأيكم يا مجتمع ريديت؟

Brief intro (optional): Salam everybody! This isn’t the first or last you’ve seen me on this forum but I am determined 😂

Your Essential Information:

Age: 28

Origin/Ethnicity: Indian mom, Pakistani dad, I was born and raised in the U.S.

Languages spoken (with proficiency levels): English, can understand Urdu but can’t speak it well.

Level of religious practice: Moderate. I wear hijab and eat zabihah only but lack when it comes to praying.

Hijabi (F) (Yes/No): Yes

Current residence (city, country): Houston, USA

Willing to relocate (if yes, please specify or 'anywhere'): Yes, within the U.S. or Canada as long as you’re willing to travel to US a few times a year so I can see family

Siblings (number and older/younger): 2 younger and 1 older

Previously married/Kids: nope

Occupation: Teacher

Education: Bachelors of Science in Education

Height (cm), weight (kg): 5’6, I am a chubby woman.

Physical appearance (specifics you think are important): I wear glasses. I am told I look different with and without makeup so I’m glad to show both versions. Also I have tattoos.

Smokes/Vapes/Hookah (Yes/No): No. would prefer the same from my partner.

Leisure activities: Reading, watching movies, painting, solo tripping.

Your Preferences in a Partner:

Age range: 28-34

Origin/Ethnicity: Open to all ethnicities. I’d prefer somebody also south Asian but I’m open to learning a new culture too.

Languages: English. Fluent in Urdu or Arabic (so our kids can learn it)

Level of religious practice: Moderate. I want somebody who respects wiladats and also shahadats. Somebody who harbors a strong love for the Ahylul Bayt and wants to pass that down to our kids.

Education: At least a Bachelors.

Deal breakers:
I would not be a good match for you if
You to live with parents after marriage
You are looking for a housewife
You want a lot of kids
You are sexist, homophobic, use slurs in your day to day.

Other preferences (appearance, family situation, etc.): Would love to have somebody at least 5’8 and above.
I would prefer somebody who’s established in their job and career. And is financially independent.

Additional Information you like to add:
I have not had good examples of marriages in my life so I can be a bit cynical. However I think deep down I do wish to find my person who I can be 100% myself around. I want somebody who knows his flaws and doesn’t excuse them but also gently guides me towards what’s right. Honestly I’d love to be a mom and so I’d want somebody who can be a great dad (not trying to scare you! Kids will come in due time lol). I want my children to be better Muslims than me and hold that endearment for the Ahylul Bayt and I need a good man to do so. And in turn I will try to be a good woman alongside you.

Salamun Alaikum dear sisters and brothers,

We are excited to announce a new round of matchmaking event! As always, this initiative is aimed at fostering meaningful and respectful connections that hopefully lead to marriages within our community.

We welcome everyone to participate, whether a newcomer or a frequenter of the sub!

Please keep in mind:

– Be respectful towards your match (and us!): We want to create a positive, respectful experience for everyone. If you are not interested in someone’s profile after being matched, please inform them politely. You don’t need to explain why, just a simple informing message suffices. Also, if you change your mind and don't want to continue in the event, please inform us ASAP. Ghosting is disrespectful and unacceptable.

– Be precise about preferences: To avoid being matched with someone you’re not interested in, please be very clear and specific in your profile and your personal preferences. The more precise you are about your dealbreakers and preferences, the better we can match you with someone who aligns with your values and expectations. Don’t be shy. Honesty is crucial.

– Communicate with kindness: Always approach your matches with kindness and understanding. Even if you don’t feel the connection, remember that we are all trying to find someone who is right for us. Let’s keep this process respectful and dignified.

Application deadline:
 
The submission phase will run from now until 11 Oct. midnight (UTC). No application will be accepted after the deadline.

Process and how to apply:

(1) Fill out the submission template: Please submit your profile via the provided template (pinned comment). We need your basic details and preferences. Be thorough when listing what you do and don’t want in a partner. Accuracy is important to ensure we make the best possible matches for you.

(2) Submit via DM: Brothers submit their filled template via DM to the male mod (u/P3CU1i4R), sisters to female mod (u/morpholinoo). The last day to submit your profile is 11 Oct. (UTC), so make sure to apply before the deadline.

(3) We match: Once the submissions are closed, we will carefully review the profiles and match based on compatibility, preferences, and dealbreakers. Matched individuals (both sides) will be contacted by us with the username and profile of their match.

(4) End of the event: We will announce the end of matching by a post on the sub. Note: when the event has ended and you (a participant) haven’t received any message from us, it means we haven’t found a match for you.

(5) Feedback: We sincerely ask the participants to give us feedback on any aspects of the event. It will help us immensely in improving the event for future rounds, Insha’Allah.

If you have any questions or need further clarification, feel free to reach out to us, the mods. Your participation and feedback are highly valued, and we look forward to helping you in your journey to find a meaningful connection.

May Allah (swt) bless you all with the best outcomes, and guide us towards what is best for us in this world and the Hereafter. Kindly keep us in your Duas.

27M | Jeddah | Looking for MARRIAGE

I am 5'6", never married, and currently living in Jeddah.

I’ve completed education along with AI certifications and currently run an online AI engineering company, with plans to pursue engineering studies.

I’m introverted, ambitious and easygoing, with interests in AI, aviation, engineering, psychology, history and cooking.

DM me if interested.