u/Fit_Locksmith8965

I’ve been on and off Muzz for the past couple of years, and it genuinely blows my mind that the filters haven’t improved at all. If anything, they’ve somehow gotten worse.

Like, what is the point of giving us filters if the app is just going to ignore them?
I select Shia, I still get anything and everything under the sun.

I narrow it down by ethnicity, still get people completely outside what I selected.

I filter by location, suddenly I’m seeing profiles from random places nowhere near the area I chose.

And this isn’t an occasional profile slipping through. It happens constantly. At that point, why even have filters?

For an app that’s literally designed around helping people find a compatible spouse, you’d think basic search/filter functionality would be one of the things they’d actually prioritize. Truly terrible. Please fix the filters 😭 it also doesn’t help that there’s so few options on there…

Brief intro (optional):
Salaam! I’m a 30-year-old Lebanese guy based in Toronto looking for a serious, marriage-minded relationship. I value faith, family, community, and lifelong growth. I’m someone who always has new ideas and projects on the go, enjoys learning, and wants to build a home centered around the teachings of Ahlul Bayt (AS). I’m happy to exchange photos early on if there’s mutual interest, and I’d appreciate the same.

Your Essential Information:
Age:
30

Origin/Ethnicity:
Lebanese

Languages spoken (with proficiency levels):
English – Fluent
Arabic – Conversational

Level of religious practice:
Practicing Shia Muslim. I strive to keep Ahlul Bayt (AS) at the center of my life and am always working to improve my faith and character. Prays, fasts, and tries to read Quran regularly.

Current residence (city, country):
Toronto, Ontario, Canada

Willing to relocate (if yes, please specify or ‘anywhere’):
Prefer to remain in the Toronto area. I would consider relocating for the right person to places such as New York City, Chicago, or Los Angeles.

Siblings (number and older/younger):
2 youngest

Previously married/Kids:
Never married, no children.

Occupation:
Consultant in the pharmaceutical/clinical research industry.

Education:
Bachelor’s degree and Master’s degree.

Height (cm), weight (kg):
180 cm (5’11”). 85kg

Physical appearance (specifics you think are important):
Slim, athletic build.

Smokes/Vapes/Hookah (Yes/No):
No.

Leisure activities:
Clinical research and healthcare
Baking
Trying new sports (currently tennis)
Public transit and urban planning
Community volunteering and leadership
Exploring new ideas and projects

Your Preferences in a Partner:
Age range:
Approximately 24-30

Origin/Ethnicity:
Preferably Arab, though I’m open if our values and goals strongly align.

Languages:
English is sufficient. Arabic is a huge bonus

Level of religious practice:
A practicing Shia Muslim who keeps Ahlul Bayt (AS) at the center of her life. I’m not looking for perfection, we’re all works in progress, but I do value someone who is sincere, consistently trying to grow, and wants to strengthen her faith over time. I’m okay if you don’t wear hijab but it should be a goal you work towards.

Education:
No strict requirement. I value curiosity, self-motivation, and a desire to keep learning more than any particular degree.

Deal breakers:
Not serious about marriage
Major incompatibility in religious values
Smoking/vaping
No desire for personal growth or community involvement

Other preferences (appearance, family situation, etc.):
Around 165 cm (5’5”) is ideal, though this isn’t a strict requirement.
Takes care of herself.
I generally prefer a fuller/curvier build
Open to someone who is divorced.
Looking for someone who wants to build a strong family, raise children with good values, and become actively involved in shaping the kind of community we’d want them to grow up in.

Additional Information you’d like to add:
I’m happy to exchange pictures early if there’s mutual interest and would appreciate the same. I believe a successful marriage is built on shared values, kindness, communication, and growing together over time rather than expecting either person to be perfect from the start.

I feel unbelievably defeated. I’m 31, and it feels like I just cannot catch a break.

As the oldest of three in a Middle Eastern family living in Canada, a lot of the financial pressure falls on me. My dad invested his life’s work back home, and those assets are basically worthless now. At the same time, I’m trying to help support family overseas, we’ve recently had deaths in the family, and I do not want that burden falling on my younger siblings.

Career-wise, I know I’m smart and capable. I work in evidence generation and health economics, and I’ve been in the field for over five years. I’ve been promoted consistently, but I’m still underpaid. Every time I apply for better opportunities, I either get auto-rejected, ghosted, or dropped after interviews. I’ve done everything I can think of: networking, referrals, LinkedIn outreach, resume rewrites, tailored applications, personalized cover letters, AI tools. Every rejection cuts deeper.

For years, I was also pursuing medicine while helping at my family’s restaurants. I wrote the MCAT five times and could never get all the sections to line up at once. I know now medicine probably was not the right path for me, but I still struggle with the fact that I could have at least been financially stable enough to support my family.

Meanwhile, I’m 31, still living with my parents, driving a 20-year-old car, and unable to even think about building my own life. It makes me feel stuck and deeply behind.

The hardest part is that I am trying. I have great friends, I go to therapy, I’m medicated for my ADHD, and I try to stay grounded in my faith as a practicing Muslim. I’m not giving up hope.

But I am exhausted. It takes so much energy to keep being patient when nothing feels like it’s falling into place. I just need something to finally go right for once.