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I’ve noticed that this is mostly an Iraqi thing where they swear by Imam Hussein AS or Abu Fadhl Al Abbas. Isn’t this forbidden as you are only allowed to swear by Allah and the Quran?

This may be an unpopular opinion but it is a serious issue in our Shia community, men who have moved on with their lives, started new families but refuse to grant their wife a divorce, this is abuse, controlling, disgusting behaviour that happens more often that we'd like to believe. Also corrupt imams that do not give the woman a khula because they have been paid off by the man's family, I don't believe these men should even have the honour of calling themselves Muslims, they do not embody what Islam is, it is embarassing, so many women have left Islam and have committed zina just to move on with their lives, this sin lies on the man who abused and refuse to give her the divorce, you can't convince me that these men are good men, they are larping and believe they are good Muslims, we need to have these conversations openly and not shame any woman who tries to speak or rightfully move on with her life

To provide further clarity, yes I am referring to myself, I do have a BA/Honours/Masters and certificate, I work in the government and my plan is to leave when I get married or even before. But I wasn’t sure what criteria young women looking to get married believe with this option? Thanks

It’s not that I don’t feel shame but that it only comes after sinning and oftentimes I tend to go back to sinning despite istighfar. One week I can be on a spiritual high and feel so contented and at peace and next week I’m worse than an animal it feels like. Cycle keeps going on and on.

Salaam

I am looking for advice. My dad died a few years ago and it’s just my mum, eldest brother, elder sister and me.

My other brother died before my dad and our family has been through alot.

Before my dad died, he was worried about my sister and I as we are unmarried.

My dad said to my brother for him to look after us and he would get a property on inheritance and my sister and I would get the house that we live in.

My brother has 3 houses already. Recently he has needed money and his proposal was for my sister and I to take a loan out on the house he would get so he gets the money and we would get that house. But I do not want to do interest and the issue remains that even if we did this, would my brother not need the 2:1 inheritance?

I am lost as what to do and also I do not trust my brother with finances as he has done credit fraud on my dad and sister many years ago. He has also physically abused my sister and I in the past.

JazakhAllah khierun

How popular is this belief among Shias that God has given control of atoms of universe to Imams? Also did they have got it from very beginning of creation or after Attaining Imamah? Also does it cease after an Imam dies?

Since we are in Muharram, I will use the tragedy of Karbala as an example to explain what I mean.

This year, I have read some things about the events of Karbala that I haven't heard of yet. It came to me sort of as a shock but more so as a wave of confusion since I wasn't sure if I should believe it or not so I just left it as a maybe.

I'll mention a couple of the things that I have read.

1. Imam Hussain's (AS) severed head reciting Quran.

2. The Jinn talking with Imam Hussain (AS) about helping him during battle.

3. The sky opening up and the companions of Imam Hussain (AS) seeing Heaven.

There are a few more but these are ones that I can instantly remember.

My main question is, are these actually genuinely true, or are they added to make the events more emotional?

Taking the first point as an example, I completely understand that the Masumeen (PBUT) are extremely special people and they do have miracles of their own however, I'm surprised to hear that a person who has been decapitated, with severed vocal cords, is reciting Quran. I'm not saying it's not true, but I just find it very surprising.

Overall, can someone just explain these things to me and if they are true. I just feel that every Muharram I see a new thing added to the day of Ashura and I'm just not sure if it's true or for shock factor. I just want the authentic recollection. Sorry if my questions are possibly considered rude or inconsiderate, that is not my intention.

I’m 29 (m) years old and have 2 younger siblings both 2-3 years apart. My dad has decided he would like to just leave us permanently and is going back to his home country. We live in the US where we’ve spent more than a decade of our lives and Alhamdulillah made it through this rough phase by will of Allah SWT and the strength of the AhlulBayt(AS).

To make this short, my dad has not worked a day in his life since moving to the US or provided for us. Without getting into reasons why, my siblings and my mom have come to terms that him leaving might be what’s best for us since decades of mental torture and neglect has hindered both mine and my siblings cognitive development. Alhamdulilah this in turn has made all 3 of us mature before a lot of children our age and has instilled our belief in Allah SWT even more.
When people talk about their dads and what they’ve done for them it seems so foreign to me, I can’t ever relate tbh.

To those children who have been through similar situations, how have you answered ‘society’ about what happened between your parents? I mean, not that we care about what people think but it’s just a weird topic to bring up.
Does it hinder potential marriage prospects? Do people treat your family differently? Allah SWT knows us better than other people so I truly believe inshAllah we will all move forward in life and have a better loving family dynamic in the future by His Will but this is a new reality to all of us. My siblings are well established and we have done great for ourselves MashAllah but we want to be prepared for the cruel world I guess.

JazakAllah

Hello fellow students of knowledge. Many conversations I’ve had with friends of Shia, Sunni and Ibadi persuasions often take on the form of either historical events or apologetics. As I am simply a laymen, I sometimes find that the knowledge I have doesn’t come to me in those moments that could really further the discussion and take it to a new level. Like remembering an amazing comeback days after an argument with a loved one, it’s frustrating to only remember something when I’m re-reading it or listening to it. I find that I learn Islamic knowledge very differently than to something like mathematics or tactic knowledge. How do you guys engage with your resources when learning about Islam, be it the Seerah, Hadith of the ahluyl bayt or just listening to a lecture, and furthermore how do you effectively index it in your mind?

Edit: added punctuation because good God

السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته

I'm a teenager looking to study in a hawza online, my question is, is there a hawza online that allows minors (under the age of 18) to enter and also has free entry?

if there are any language barriers, I can speak arabic and english fluently.

Thank you very much.

جزاكم الله خيراً

Salam

I am separated from my husband, and deciding to eventually divorce. My husband cheated on me after I had his child, because I wasn’t able to be the wife he wanted, I’ve contracted std’s and so I decided to leave because of his lack of empathy and attitude around his behaviour.

I am already pretty traumatised and didn’t have a great relationship with marriage to begin, having been married when I was very young and divorcing young I carry a lot of shame and baggage. What’s worse is the amount of gaslighting I’ve received even from other women, who tell me I can move past the cheating and get over it for my son. Is this what Allah wants from us now? To oppress ourselves for the sake of our reputations?

I am in shambles and asking for sincere duaa. I am losing my faith day by day, I’ve gone through hell already and wish I never tried to get married again, I went into it with good intentions however I failed again. I fear that many of my decisions have lead me down a path of destruction where I’m often left rebuilding and I’m very tired.

I have no one to talk to in real life about this and it’s really hard, I want to end my life and just be done with it all, the sheer weight of making the wrong decision feels like being skinned alive - then to be lectured on how hard marriage is and how bad divorce is - at this point it just falls on deaf ears I’m exhausted, I don’t understand how marriage is meant to feel, it feels like being in hell to me

I’m so tired