u/xeek29

Hey everyone, hope you guys are well.

May Allah make ease for us all and help us find what's best for us.

Putting yourself out there is genuinely no easy feat, it takes up a hell lot of courage, to just take the step.

Everyone is struggling, hurting, tired maybe, so, let's just all be kind to each other, honest to each other and open with your potential.

Be kind, be respectful, please don't ghost or disappear, it hurts and causes a lot of pain and overthinking, specially if you're in the advanced stages.

I the end, I'll just repeat my prayer for everyone, may Allah make ease for us all and help us find the best for us.

Good luck out there, have Tawakkul, we got this insha Allah.

So a genuine question for all the people here who are looking to get married.

I see men backing up a lot of men with ahadees and just throwing about Allah's name and shariah and comparisons with The Prophet SAW and the Ahlul Bayt As specially when it comes to marrying younger women with a, let's say questionable age gap, or marrying multiple women I.E. Polygamy.

Am I to understand, that when you start drawing comparisons with the Masoomeen AS, that your intentions are genuinely on par with the Masoomeen AS (Maaz Allah), or that you are as pious as the Masoomeen AS.

Yes we are supposed to follow in their footsteps and Shariah, but, am I to genuinely believe that you follow everything according to the Ahlul Bayt AS and the Shariah to the dot enough to be bringing up such comparisons and asking "if they did it, why shouldn't we?"

Salam, hope everyone is well.

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I remember back in 2019, I found a link in which there was an hourly and day wise timeline of the the events leading upto Karbala and what happened in Karbala.

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I have been unable to find it since then.

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Can someone please help me out in either finding that link or something similar, I prefer reading and re-reading for knowledge.

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Thanks in advance.

منم غلامِ حضرتِ شاہِ نجف!

I'd like to thank everyone who interacted with my last post. I know reddit isn't always the best solution, but I shall leave no stone unturned.

Brief intro (optional):

Here are a few things about me to get started:

1. I'm divorced without kids so let's get that out of the way.

2. Yes I am a Shia, not born but by belief. So open to both Shia and Sunni prospects.

3. I don't really care if you have vitiligo, diabetes, BP, Epilepsy, or some condition as long as you're a good, kind, sweet, caring, loving, supportive and an understanding person.

4. I love music, beaches, travelling and fun discussions.

5. I respect all of mankind, unless they are an absolute piece of garbage, and I believe in equality.

6. I try to be a good person, to always provide a listening ear, to be there however I can, unconditionally.

7. I vape, but smoke extremely rarely.

8. I respect women, and will do so till the day I die.

9. I am looking for a partner, to build a home together, to love and care for each other till death parts us. To build a safe environment where we can be ourselves our own lives, our own world (even if we will be living with my family: parents and brother).

10. I would actually genuinely want to know the person first and the person to know me first as well.

11. Above is obviously just the tip of the iceberg, but I hope we can form an understanding and then involve families.

12. My family knows tbat I'm here and I'm looking.

13. I have tattoos.

14. I'm quite chill, laid back, easy going and flexible

I would definitely like to get to know you better and would like you to get to know me better.

Your Essential Information:

Age: 35

Origin/Ethnicity: Pakistani

Languages spoken (with proficiency levels): Urdu, English

Level of religious practice: Moderate

Current residence (city, country): Karachi, Pakistan

Willing to relocate (if yes, please specify or 'anywhere'): depends on the situation

Siblings (number and older/younger): 1 youngrr

Previously married/Kids: Divorced - No kids

Occupation: Project Manager in a Bank

Education: Graduate

Height (cm), weight (kg): 5'4

Physical appearance (specifics you think are important): I'm bald and I do carry it well. I have tattoos

Smokes/Vapes/Hookah (Yes/No): I Vape

Leisure activities: Concerts, movies, music, gigs, love travelling, food, beaches

Your Preferences in a Partner: Kind, loving, caring, well spoken,

Age range: 27 - 33

Origin/Ethnicity: doesn't matter

Languages: as long as she can converse in English at least

Level of religious practice: any

Education: at least graduate

Deal breakers: arrogance, ignorance, holier than thou or better than you attitude,

Other preferences (appearance, family situation, etc.): Can be discussed but we need to vibe.

Additional Information you like to add: can be discussed

Apologies in advance for the long post.

So I have a question, I'm a divorced guy and my ex was a Syeda and me a sunni. We never really had any issues with beliefs as I already leaned more towards to the Shia side of things. It was over personality differences. It's been an year almost, she's remarried and I wish her health, happiness and success.

So coming to the question, I converted somewhere down the line and after the divorce, my faith has strengthened, my beliefs are stronger and I'm mostly trying to learn. I do want to remarry and start a new life with my partner till the end the end of days, obviously working in a partnership and making a beautiful life for each other with love and respect. I have 0 issues whether the girl is single, married or divorced.

However, I have come across the issue that, women are not exactly ready to even talk because 1. I'm not a Syed, 2. I'm not a born Shia? Like how is that even my fault where I was born and which household. My parents know and have been extremely supportive and like, I'm just at a genuine loss here.

Tawakkal is a big part of my life, but I do strongly believe that a person needs to work for it as well, however, how would a girl get to know me, or my family, if she doesn't even talk to me, how would she understand my love for the Ahle Bayt, or the hatred for the enemies of the Ahle Bayt, ot my overall beliefs.

I have tried Muzz (only option I had as I really try to steer away from rishta aunties) and that app has failed miserably.

I'm genuinely at a loss here for what to do?