u/Livid_Compote_2563

salam!

20f in the US - NYC

currently at undergraduate senior studying psychology while working a part time job

ethnicity - senegalese 🇸🇳, open to all backgrounds

ideal age range - 20-25 years old

my biggest wants in a marriage in honest communication, effort, trust, compassion and vulnerability. i’m not asking for perfection. i am looking for consistency. someone who willing to show up if when the days are hard as i try to do the same.

What I’m looking for (non-negotiables)
Someone who prioritizes Allah and is grounded in their deen
Serious intentions toward marriage
Respectful, responsible, and stable in work and finances
Strong character and treats others with kindness
Values clear communication and accountability
Respects my choices, goals, and individuality

Dealbreakers

zina or any sort of adultery before and during marriage
lack of awareness or care about actions effect
racism or colorism of any sorts
lack of respect towards boundaries of any kind

only DM if you are serious

salam everyone! 20f. i hope you are having a great start to the week. i don’t know if it’s just me but i have been a little lost lately. i’m graduating college in the spring, working on finance, started a new job at a big apple. all this things are great and alhamdulillah always.

i guess I’m just feeling a little lost in navigating all these big life transitions with holding space for future developments like grad school or marriage. i feel sometimes unsure about where i’m heading. i know to have trust in allah and to have faith that everything will workout. i just don’t want to lose myself and my goals overall. i can definitely admit that my thoughts have been overwhelmed with marriage, if i am ready anytime soon for it, how to open spaces for that. i recently deactivated my Instagram and trying to clean out my TikTok feed so I’m not just hyper fixating on that.

i just really needed to rant and do a brain dump here. any and all support is appreciated 🤍