r/MuslimCorner

**Salam everyone. I’m a highschooler living in Canada, and about a month ago I stopped shaving and started growing my beard because shaving is haram and having a beard is sunnah causing my parents to treat me horribly.**

**my parents consider themselves Muslim and hold onto certain cultural lines (like not eating pork), but they don't pray, believe that "faith is just in the heart" and that kindness is enough to show you love for Allah and they do a lot of haram things they don’t consider haram because it has been normalized.Because of this, they view my adherence to Islamic rulings as extreme.**
**Their reaction has turned into constant harassment:**
**My Dad: He has completely stopped talking to me, refuses to look at me, and uses my mom as a middleman. He also withdrew his help with getting my driver's license and job connections because of the beard, he said he won’t be seen with me in public and that I’m not his son anymore. (Honestly, the silent treatment doesn't bother me; I'm fine with it).**
**My Mom: She is constantly on my case. She accuses me of being a "terrorist," "extremist," and "wasting my life." She tells me looking at me makes her want to vomit, hides me from her friends, and is now threatening to force me to see a therapist because she thinks I'm brainwashed or controlled.**

**Day-to-day, I'm doing really well: I'm happy, keeping up with school/grades, hitting the gym, and hanging out with friends.**

**I don't preach to my parents or judge their lack of prayer, and I try my best to be respectful while holding my ground on this one rule (knowing we don't obey parents in matters that involve a sin).**
**I don't want to fight with my mom, but her constant jabs, emotional guilt-trips (crying, insulting my appearance), and the threat of forcing me into therapy are getting exhausting.**

**What should I do in this situation?**

I have never been in a haram relationship despite living in Western Europe. However, even after 3 years, I cannot get over a girl I wanted to marry. I prayed istikhara and we stopped talking because of a misunderstanding we had. Was that my fault or a punishment? Any advice? I have been suffering. She is the only girl I ever found attractive

Salaam everyone.

I'm a 19 year old Muslim male, employed, don't drink/smoke/do drugs,

pray all five prayers without exception (sometimes delayed but never

missed). I live with my parents in Europe. I need honest perspectives

because I genuinely don't know if I'm the problem.

This morning after Fajr I tried to leave the house to go work at a

café. My mother blocked me and said if I leave without telling her

exactly where I'm going, I should leave my keys and take my clothes.

Last night she was crying and apologizing to me. This morning same

threats resumed.

This is a monthly pattern. There is no month without major conflict.

\- Parents demand a significant monthly financial contribution even

though both work and have income

\- I had a government study grant years ago that was deposited into

their account I never received it

\- During Ramadan last year I was not allowed to eat suhoor or iftar

at home I had to eat hidden after the adhans

\- On Eid I ate breakfast alone at a café after prayer because the

home environment was too tense my father called me disrespectful

\- I have a physical condition from childhood I won't detail

it is permanent

1. Am I islamically wrong for wanting to leave the house without

   providing my exact location to my parents at 19?

2. Is the monthly financial demand islamically valid if both

   parents are employed?

3. Am I ʿāq for wanting to move out and live independently?

I maintain adab. I don't insult them. I keep my deen clean.

But I feel like no matter what I do, I'm always the problem.

Honest answers only please, even if I'm wrong.

Im a Muslim man and i have an un curable STD from past sexual encounters unfortunately in a haram way, there js alot of consequences i have been dealing with from my shameful past but the biggest problem right now is that my family keep bringing up the discussion of me getting married and they dont know any of my history or current situation, i keep trying to deflect and tell them im not interested but they keep trying to push and i think lately they have been feeling that something is wrong because this is already an emotional subject for me and them pressing on me is not making it any better

The other problem is they also bring it up infront of extended family members and i just want this to stop, i really dont want them to find out about my past or STD but how can i convince them to get the idea out of their heads and stop talking to me about this without confessing everything and without disappointing them

Ive tried telling them i just don’t ever want to get married but that just leads to more questions and confusion… Im starting to feel like the only way is to isolate myself but at the same time i feel like this would lead to more confusion and still hurt them

Al-salamu alaykum wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatuh!

I'm a fluent Arabic & English speaker, and I've been thinking about teaching beginners how to read the Qur’an correctly, in shaa Allah.

I'd like to help people learn the Arabic letters, understand harakat (short vowel marks and pronunciation), join letters together, and practise reading aloud with gentle corrections along the way.

My intention is to help others learn to read the Qur’an while also earning some money to help with university expenses, in shaa Allah.

I wanted to ask a few questions:

1.Do you think this would be a good idea?

2.Would you or someone you know be interested in lessons like these?

3.What would you look for in someone teaching Qur’an reading to beginners?

4. Also, I'm thinking of offering lessons to beginners aged 14 and above. Do you think this is a suitable age range, or would it be better to focus on a different group?

I'd really appreciate your thoughts and honest feedback. Thank you and Jazakum Allahu khayran!

By the grace of God, I am handsome, financially well-off, and run my own business; I have a strong personality and a distinctive presence. I wish to marry a Russian Muslim woman who is God-fearing, so that we may build a peaceful Muslim family together.

Can anyone help me to find a good gairl?

As in he/she was born as a result of zina but was good Muslim

I’m 25 and earn 36k, Inshallah I’m hoping to get a promotion in the next 6 months which will up my salary to 45k. I’m a girl, not that it matters much but just for context that I won’t have the expectation to provide for anyone lol.

I know the job market is cooked right now so Alhamdullilah I am grateful. However, I do have a first class degree and was always good in school so I’m wondering if I’m selling myself short by not aiming higher and instead sticking to a “comfortable” career thats not demanding.

Salam, I've always imagined to be married to a loving clingy type of guy someone who would melt just from hearing my voice and would be possessive over me and loyal. My question is it possible to find such a guy and what should I do to find him cuz im a shy girl

Your Duas aren’t getting accepted because you are making them wrong.

Think of your dua like a 7 layered burger sandwich.

Salawat on the Prophet ﷺ is the top and bottom bun, another five layers in between make up the filling. And the common ingredient amongst all the 5 layers in between is Allah's Names - Allah says: "And to Allah belong the Most Beautiful Names, so call upon Him by them." (7:180) The key is to match the Name to what you're saying or asking. Don't invent Names, and pick ones that genuinely fit the meaning of your request.

**Layer 1 - Salawat:** Start with salawat upon the Prophet ﷺ.

**Layer 2 - Praise Allah:** Glorify Him and remember His perfection, greatness, power, mercy, and wisdom. For example: Ya Malik al-Mulk, Ya Jabbar, Ya 'Azim, Ya Hakim.

**Layer 3 - Show gratitude:** Thank Him for what you already have: your faith, health, family, protection, and every blessing you can see and can't see. Alhamdulillah for what I have before I ask for what I want.

**Layer 4 - Seek forgiveness and repent:** Admit your shortcomings and make sincere tawbah. For example: Ya Rahman, Ya Rahim, Ya Ghafur, Ya Ghaffar, Ya 'Afuww.

**Layer 5 - Ask for what you need:** Be direct and specific, for your dunya and your akhirah. Use Names that fit the request: Ya Razzaq for rizq, Ya Fattah for openings and solutions, Ya Rahman for mercy. Ask with humility and certainty that He hears you.

**Layer 6 - Submit and conclude:**Hand the outcome back to Allah and ask Him to choose what is best, because He knows what you don't. Something like: "Ya Allah, this is what I want, but I trust Your wisdom. If it's good for me, grant it. If it's not, choose what is better for me." Then close with *La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah* and the dua of Yunus عليه السلام: *La ilaha illa anta, subhanaka inni kuntu minaz-zalimin.*

**Layer 7 - Salawat:** Finish with salawat upon the Prophet ﷺ again.

***References***
*Qur'an:* 7:180, 2:186, 51:58, 34:26
*Hadith:* Tirmidhi 3477 and Abu Dawud 1481 (praise, then salawat, then dua), Bukhari 6384 (La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah), Tirmidhi 3505 (dua of Yunus عليه السلام)

Assalamualaikum,

I work as a software engineer in North America. I always avoid getting into a situation where I'm even alone with a woman. But sometimes, if I'm taking an interview or a client comes to meet us, a lady extends her hand and I shake my hand to not be disrespectful and cause any embarrassment to my colleagues.

But this really hurts my soul, as the prophet saw has said that having an iron nail or needle driven into one's head is better than touching a woman who is not lawfully permissible.

How can I avoid shaking hands in such cases?

**As a Muslim woman and medical graduate, lately, I’ve been really interested in the intersection between women’s health and the deen.**

I’ve noticed there are so many things Muslim women experience but don’t always feel comfortable talking about openly.

I’d genuinely love to hear from you. Have you ever had a health question or situation where you wished someone would explain to you from both a medical and Islamic perspective?

It could be:
• Periods, irregular bleeding, or understanding what counts as menstruation

• PCOS or other hormonal issues

• Fertility or trying to conceive

• Pregnancy or breastfeeding

• Sexual or reproductive health

• Menopause

• Mental health

• Finding healthcare that understands and respects your religious needs

• Questions about what your health means for salah, fasting, ghusl, or other acts of worship

• Or something completely different that isn’t on this list

And it doesn’t have to be one of these. If something comes to mind, what was the actual question or situation you were struggling with? And it could be sitting completely different as well.

If you’d rather not share something publicly, please feel free to DM me. 🤍 I completely understand that some health questions are personal, and I’d genuinely love to hear your experience.

No judgment at all.

When i warn about extremism the post gets more upvotes than the volume of ignorant comments, despite those comments being the majority.

This clearly shows how the internet is full of loud Ignoramuses.

She recently gave birth and I have stayed with her for the longest in 8 months than in 5 whole years of their marriage. Usually I am the kind of person who doesn't go uninvited anywhere and at my sister's too I dont really like staying too much . There's her husband too so it doesn't sit right with me .

When she gave birth I stayed for like 3 to 4 weeks after birth then I came home and went again because she needed help . They were shifting homes in the middle of all and she could barely take care of my niece. I didn't mind . Now that she's grown I would give everything to spend time with my niece . Last month we stayed for around 8 days at theirs house...with my parents too . I hated it for the same reason . I used to think it's weird , but I guess if my sixth sense tells me to not stay it must be right. As much as love our baby hahaha . Ya she's mine too . Now my other sister is visiting and seeing the baby after a whole 7 months ( she was a newborn when she last saw her ). She's coming from abroad and told us to get there so we can meet... she doesn't have time to.come to our house (we lice like 4 hours apart). And I decided I won't be going ...

My parents don't take this well. I would love to stay there or with my niece forever she's my everything but I feel uncomfortable every time . And every time we visit (with my parents too) , I am forced to stay longer because of them . Booking a ticket and leaving , I tried . They made me feel like a ruthless person hahah

And my brother in law is really nice and kind. But he's our cousin and before the marriage he didn't even bother to say hi or meet(living in the same country abroad ) . I feel it might be because of him . He feels clearly overwhelmed after a whole.day at work . And then getting back we are there "disturbing " his peace . That's what I sensed. I get him because If I worked so hard I would feel the same too. I feel guilty about staying there, eating too much and disturbing them .