How do you go about your day? Does the regret overwhelms you?

Today the men can go out whenever they want for unnecessary things, travel, have fun and stay out late however they like. But how come when it's a woman she shouldn't go out unless necessary, and she should always stay in check, can't travel nor any of that things ?

I could see it happen before in the time of the prophet, men spend time out with purpose and still the prophet always made sure to spend his time with his famillies.

So why is it nowadays that we have all ways of fun (i do not mean haram) like traveling going out doing activities... how is it men can do anything without being questioned but then you see those very men want their sisters, mothers wives and daughters not to leave home unless necessary?

Oh especially the travel they appose to ut as she can not go alone, yet they would never make the effort to go with them, ironic how they like to set the rules on woman but never accompany them so they can actually enjoy as well.

And do not tell me it's dangerous becauae today it is dangerous for both males and females, i would actually like to see men's comments for this.

Because i do not see this fair.

I don't mean anything romantic or flirtatious. It's not a daily thing, and we don't even know each other's real names or identities. We just end up discussing movies, TV shows, or general life topics. I sometimes take advice because I just want to know about the situation from different prespective or pov of the opposite gender.

Would this be considered permissible in Islam, or is it something that should be avoided? I'd appreciate answers backed by Islamic reasoning if possible.

Assalamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
• 30F | Somali | Near Manchester, UK
• 5’8 (174cm)
• Care worker
• Divorced, no children
• Born in the Netherlands, moved to the UK when I was a kid and open to relocating for the right marriage and home, inshallah.

About me:
• Practicing Sunni Muslimah, I pray five daily prayers, strive to grow in my deen, wear full hijab, jilbab and abaya, and avoid all that Allah has forbidden.
• Naturally introverted and quiet at first, but warm, loyal, open and deeply caring once I feel comfortable.
• My work has taught me patience, compassion and resilience, I bring these qualities to my relationships and home.
• I enjoy reading, spending time with my family and keeping a peaceful tidy home, and exploring local places.
• One of my greatest life goals is to perform Hajj, and I strive to prepare for both this life and the Akhirah.

Looking for:
• Practicing Sunni Muslim with strong deen, good character and fear of Allah
• Serious about marriage, building a peaceful Islamic home, and leading gently but firmly
• Emotionally mature, kind, honest, dependable, and protective
• Around my height or taller, no children from previous relationships
• Does not practice polygamy, prioritises our marriage while keeping respectful boundaries with extended family
• Responsible, self‑sufficient, and shares my values of loyalty and mutual respect
• Open to all righteous Muslim men of any background, though I share my culture and welcome that too.

• potential preferred age 29-37

Future goals:

To build a loving, peaceful nuclear family life rooted in faith, trust and kindness, growing together in this world and earning the pleasure of Allah in the Hereafter.

Salam, I’m a stay-at-home mom and quite happy. I have a toddler at home and people keep asking me when I will go back to work. Honestly, I don’t really want to.

But people (Muslims & non-Muslims) keep saying that women should be strong and independent. And that they shouldn’t rely on their husband. But doesn’t that make them a kaffir because they are rejecting what the Quran says.

Being a feminist doesnt automatically make you a kaffir.

If ANYBODY believes that men are NOT protectors or providers of women, then they kufr because it says in Quran:

Surah Nisa “Men are the caretakers of women, as men have been provisioned by Allah over women and tasked with supporting them financially.”

Unfortunately, plenty of feminist believe that men are not providers and protectors of women. These people are committing kufr. These people say a woman shouldn’t ask her husband for financial expenses as women should be get the most highest paying jobs as we are “strong and independent”. That is contradictory to what Allah says. Allah put the financial burden on men, not women.

However, some feminist do believe that men are the providers and protectors of women. But they just stand up for basic rights of women like being able to drive, stand up against domestic violence, able to have a bank account, etc. This type of feminism is permissible of course.

So I met a guy In university who was decent and not involved in any sort of inappropriate things. We became friends and decided to get married.

Fast forward today we are engaged for a year now and families are planning to arrange marriage in winter or early months of 2027. We have a good relationship we understand each other and there’s attraction too.

However, I have so many issues. We have been together for past 4 years and although we have taken families into each other and they are pretty much happy, I fear that this haram time we have spent might cause any poverty , wrath of Allah or troubleful future because we have been seeing each other before nikkah .

We have significantly dropped the frequency and stopped meeting in person and we meet once in 2 or 3 months . But I fear that this might affect the blessings of nikkah . I want to have a prosperous marriage and happy marriage life where i understand his needs and he understands mine. I cannot imagine a life without this guy as Allah has blessed him with haya and a desire to start a family have kids and children instead of running after materialistic life and chase status .

We both work, he works as an engineer and I work remotely as I want my kids and home to have enough time and availability. My future husband deserves a caring wife . But after all this I still fear that my marriage won’t be a success just because we have been together before nikkah. Also, my mother has asked his mother to get us nikkahfied but they don’t agree said it will only take place before marriage.

I am 26 and I have sexual desires. Sometimes it disturbs me so much that I start thinking of committing zina and cause mental stress . I cannot tell this to my mother but I want intimacy.

please help

( Mods please don’t remove this , it’s islamically related and give us a space to discuss things for god sake )

( they were little children , not even BOYS btw )

I am guy btw

Islam teaches us to lower our gaze and I am trying to understand and discuss the severity of this issue

I know children are innocent, and I’m not blaming a little boys for simply looking very passionately and one of them even stood behind a waitress and slap her butt.

But I’m honestly sick of how often boys and men are shown as being in awe of girls and women, while people act like it’s cute or natural.

Why is it always boys staring at girls? Why don’t we see little girls behaving the same way towards men?

That difference says something. It feels like boys are taught very early to notice, admire, and stare at girls, while girls are taught to be the ones being watched.

This is why Islam teaches haya and lowering the gaze. Not because beauty is bad, but because even innocent curiosity can become a culture of staring when adults keep normalising it.

I’m tired of women and girls being treated like something to look at. Boys need to be taught respect, restraint, and dignity early.

I can’t even believe the little boys , children started to gaze at grown women in certain clotes in very strange way and why did he slap her butt if you think maybe he was staring innocently, but they get caught by dads and felt embarrassed

As a guy boys and men makes me sick how much they are awe of women regardless of their age

is a woman such a massive test for boys/men?

what do you make of this mess?

Jazakhalkahir

I'm asking these respectfully and in good faith. I'm genuinely interested in how these are understood.

1. Abu Bakr & Umar

Why should I accept Abu Bakr's caliphate when:

Sahih al-Bukhari reports that Fatimah (ra) remained angry with Abu Bakr until she died over Fadak.

Sahih al-Bukhari reports that Ali (as) delayed giving bay'ah until after Fatimah's death.

Historical works such as *Tarikh al-Tabari* contain reports that Umar threatened the house of Fatimah.

How do you reconcile these reports with the legitimacy of the first caliphate?

2. Aisha

How should I understand Aisha's participation in the Battle of the Camel against Imam Ali (as), who was the caliph at the time? How is this reconciled with the obligation to obey the legitimate ruler?

3. Tawassul

If tawassul is accepted by many scholars (e.g. the hadith of the blind man), why is saying "Ya Husayn" considered shirk by some if the belief is that Allah alone grants all help and Husayn is only sought as a means?

I'm looking for respectful, evidence-based answers, not insults or sectarian attacks.

I am seeking a second wife. I want to follow the Sunnah and find a divorcee, widow, or a revert struggling to find a husband to take care of, provide for, and teach the deen to them.

Where do I find women that would be content with that?

My parents are currently staying in our hometown, so it's just my brother and me at home. Today, the house suddenly felt different. Quieter. Emptier. As if something that quietly held this place together was missing. I looked around and saw my parents' prayer mats, their clothes, and the little things they use every day. They were all there, exactly where they had left them. But they weren't.

A strange heaviness settled in my heart. Then, out of nowhere, I thought of my grandparents. Once upon a time, my parents were children too. They lived with their parents, laughed with them, loved them, argued with them, and probably never imagined a day would come when they would have to continue life without them. Then death came, as it comes for every soul. Not because love ended, but because Allah separated them into two different worlds. One remained in this dunya, and the other returned to the Hereafter.

And then a terrifying thought crossed my mind. If Allah grants me a longer life than my parents, one day that will be my reality too. One day, this house may still have their belongings, but not their presence. One day, I'll remember their voices instead of hearing them. One day, I'll wish I could call them, knowing no phone in this world could ever reach them. That single thought shattered my heart.

Every little moment started replaying in my mind. The times I answered them impatiently. The moments I failed to appreciate them. The endless sacrifices they made so silently, expecting almost nothing in return. The countless ways they loved us without ever asking to be loved back.May we never realize their worth only after they're gone.

We think we have time, until one day we realize time has been quietly passing all along.I hope I never take another ordinary day with my parents for granted.

At 2 a.m., I felt an overwhelming urge to call them just to say, "I love you. Thank you for everything. You mean more to me than words could ever explain." But I didn't. I didn't want to wake them up or make them worry that something terrible had happened.

So instead, I made dua. May Allah grant all of our parents the healthiest and longest lives filled with barakah. May He forgive their shortcomings, reward every sacrifice they made for us, and grant them the highest place in Jannah. And when our time in this dunya comes to an end, may Allah reunite us with our parents in Jannatul Firdaus, where there will be no fear of separation ever again. Ameen.

Hello,

I'm curious as hear from men who married a woman who converted to Islam.

Did the marriage work?

Did your family frown upon the fact that they're a different culture?

Thanks in advance!

So I am speaking to someone who i have met a few times. She is of north african descent on Europe and I am of South Asian descent in UK.

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Things are well. One things that seems to be a struggle is location and what comes with it especially around providing financially. I feel most of it should be done via a man but in todays day and age there should be contributions but she feels this should not be a burden on her.

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Any advice

I just read that one of our Muslim Leaders is going to be depoted by ICE because he donated to a cause that was connected to an illegal group. What is this telling us? If you want to help other Muslims, start with your own community. DO NOT GIVE online with all your information. Stop giving the dog a bone because he always bites. Give to a person that you know needs help. We can't know who and what we support outside of our own country. You can still support others but be wise. Give from your hands to another's hands. Have nothing between you and the person in need. Stop giving money to feed your ego. Trust what you see. And stop beleiving that your online identity is not in question with others who seek to take our religious and personal freedom. May peace always cover your path and may you use kindness and love to express who and what we are. We are Muslims, first and everything else second. Be at peace.

As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

I'm looking for sincere Islamic advice, especially from brothers and sisters who may have experience with marriage or people rebuilding their lives.

For some context, I spent 20 years in prison. I was locked up when I was 14 years old. While I was in prison, Allah guided me to Islam when I was 18, alhamdulillah. My deen is the best thing that came out of that period of my life.

I've now been free for about 6 months, alhamdulillah. I found a job, and I'm trying to build a halal life. But to be honest, I'm still adjusting to freedom. Sometimes I'm still figuring out how my phone works. There are so many normal life experiences I never had. I've never even eaten at Subway or McDonald's before. It sounds funny, but it shows how much of life I missed.

One thing I've been wondering about is marriage. I've never really spoken to women before, so I genuinely don't know how this works in practice.

If I meet someone for marriage, is my prison past something I have to tell her? If so, when is the right time to bring it up? Early on? Only if things become serious? Or is it something that should only be mentioned if it directly affects the marriage?

I'm not trying to hide anything or deceive anyone. I just don't know what the Islamic etiquette is, especially since Allah has concealed many of our pasts and I know exposing sins unnecessarily is discouraged. At the same time, I want to be fair and honest with someone I might marry.

I'd really appreciate advice grounded in Islam rather than judgment.

Jazakum Allahu khayran.

As-salamu alaykum.

I have an honest question, especially for practicing Muslims.

I'm 34 years old. I work as a dishwasher at a fast-food restaurant, and alhamdulillah I earn enough to support myself. Soon, in sha Allah, I'll also be starting a second job as a street cleaner. I live in my own two-bedroom apartment, and I'm grateful to Allah for everything He has given me.

I also have a prison past, but alhamdulillah Allah allowed me to be paroled, and I've been trying to build my life in a halal way ever since.

Sometimes I compare myself to all the successful people I see online, and it makes me wonder if someone like me would even be considered for marriage. I don't have a prestigious career or a university education, and I may never be wealthy.

My question is: would a practicing Muslim woman overlook my job and past if she saw sincere repentance, good character, and a man who works hard through halal means? Or would being a dishwasher or street cleaner be a dealbreaker?

How would you feel about someone who hasn't had any contact with their family for nearly 20 years? Would that be something that would bother you or make you hesitant, or would you want to understand the reasons before judging?

I'm genuinely interested in hearing different perspectives.

Please be honest. I'm not looking for sympathy just genuine perspectives. May Allah guide us all to spouses who value taqwa, honesty, and good character over status. Ameen.