I don't mean anything romantic or flirtatious. It's not a daily thing, and we don't even know each other's real names or identities. We just end up discussing movies, TV shows, or general life topics. I sometimes take advice because I just want to know about the situation from different prespective or pov of the opposite gender.

Would this be considered permissible in Islam, or is it something that should be avoided? I'd appreciate answers backed by Islamic reasoning if possible.

Assalamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
• 30F | Somali | Near Manchester, UK
• 5’8 (174cm)
• Care worker
• Divorced, no children
• Born in the Netherlands, moved to the UK when I was a kid and open to relocating for the right marriage and home, inshallah.

About me:
• Practicing Sunni Muslimah, I pray five daily prayers, strive to grow in my deen, wear full hijab, jilbab and abaya, and avoid all that Allah has forbidden.
• Naturally introverted and quiet at first, but warm, loyal, open and deeply caring once I feel comfortable.
• My work has taught me patience, compassion and resilience, I bring these qualities to my relationships and home.
• I enjoy reading, spending time with my family and keeping a peaceful tidy home, and exploring local places.
• One of my greatest life goals is to perform Hajj, and I strive to prepare for both this life and the Akhirah.

Looking for:
• Practicing Sunni Muslim with strong deen, good character and fear of Allah
• Serious about marriage, building a peaceful Islamic home, and leading gently but firmly
• Emotionally mature, kind, honest, dependable, and protective
• Around my height or taller, no children from previous relationships
• Does not practice polygamy, prioritises our marriage while keeping respectful boundaries with extended family
• Responsible, self‑sufficient, and shares my values of loyalty and mutual respect
• Open to all righteous Muslim men of any background, though I share my culture and welcome that too.

• potential preferred age 29-37

Future goals:

To build a loving, peaceful nuclear family life rooted in faith, trust and kindness, growing together in this world and earning the pleasure of Allah in the Hereafter.

So I met a guy In university who was decent and not involved in any sort of inappropriate things. We became friends and decided to get married.

Fast forward today we are engaged for a year now and families are planning to arrange marriage in winter or early months of 2027. We have a good relationship we understand each other and there’s attraction too.

However, I have so many issues. We have been together for past 4 years and although we have taken families into each other and they are pretty much happy, I fear that this haram time we have spent might cause any poverty , wrath of Allah or troubleful future because we have been seeing each other before nikkah .

We have significantly dropped the frequency and stopped meeting in person and we meet once in 2 or 3 months . But I fear that this might affect the blessings of nikkah . I want to have a prosperous marriage and happy marriage life where i understand his needs and he understands mine. I cannot imagine a life without this guy as Allah has blessed him with haya and a desire to start a family have kids and children instead of running after materialistic life and chase status .

We both work, he works as an engineer and I work remotely as I want my kids and home to have enough time and availability. My future husband deserves a caring wife . But after all this I still fear that my marriage won’t be a success just because we have been together before nikkah. Also, my mother has asked his mother to get us nikkahfied but they don’t agree said it will only take place before marriage.

I am 26 and I have sexual desires. Sometimes it disturbs me so much that I start thinking of committing zina and cause mental stress . I cannot tell this to my mother but I want intimacy.

please help

( Mods please don’t remove this , it’s islamically related and give us a space to discuss things for god sake )

( they were little children , not even BOYS btw )

I am guy btw

Islam teaches us to lower our gaze and I am trying to understand and discuss the severity of this issue

I know children are innocent, and I’m not blaming a little boys for simply looking very passionately and one of them even stood behind a waitress and slap her butt.

But I’m honestly sick of how often boys and men are shown as being in awe of girls and women, while people act like it’s cute or natural.

Why is it always boys staring at girls? Why don’t we see little girls behaving the same way towards men?

That difference says something. It feels like boys are taught very early to notice, admire, and stare at girls, while girls are taught to be the ones being watched.

This is why Islam teaches haya and lowering the gaze. Not because beauty is bad, but because even innocent curiosity can become a culture of staring when adults keep normalising it.

I’m tired of women and girls being treated like something to look at. Boys need to be taught respect, restraint, and dignity early.

I can’t even believe the little boys , children started to gaze at grown women in certain clotes in very strange way and why did he slap her butt if you think maybe he was staring innocently, but they get caught by dads and felt embarrassed

As a guy boys and men makes me sick how much they are awe of women regardless of their age

is a woman such a massive test for boys/men?

what do you make of this mess?

Jazakhalkahir

I am seeking a second wife. I want to follow the Sunnah and find a divorcee, widow, or a revert struggling to find a husband to take care of, provide for, and teach the deen to them.

Where do I find women that would be content with that?

Hello,

I'm curious as hear from men who married a woman who converted to Islam.

Did the marriage work?

Did your family frown upon the fact that they're a different culture?

Thanks in advance!

So I am speaking to someone who i have met a few times. She is of north african descent on Europe and I am of South Asian descent in UK.

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Things are well. One things that seems to be a struggle is location and what comes with it especially around providing financially. I feel most of it should be done via a man but in todays day and age there should be contributions but she feels this should not be a burden on her.

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Any advice

I just read that one of our Muslim Leaders is going to be depoted by ICE because he donated to a cause that was connected to an illegal group. What is this telling us? If you want to help other Muslims, start with your own community. DO NOT GIVE online with all your information. Stop giving the dog a bone because he always bites. Give to a person that you know needs help. We can't know who and what we support outside of our own country. You can still support others but be wise. Give from your hands to another's hands. Have nothing between you and the person in need. Stop giving money to feed your ego. Trust what you see. And stop beleiving that your online identity is not in question with others who seek to take our religious and personal freedom. May peace always cover your path and may you use kindness and love to express who and what we are. We are Muslims, first and everything else second. Be at peace.

As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

I'm looking for sincere Islamic advice, especially from brothers and sisters who may have experience with marriage or people rebuilding their lives.

For some context, I spent 20 years in prison. I was locked up when I was 14 years old. While I was in prison, Allah guided me to Islam when I was 18, alhamdulillah. My deen is the best thing that came out of that period of my life.

I've now been free for about 6 months, alhamdulillah. I found a job, and I'm trying to build a halal life. But to be honest, I'm still adjusting to freedom. Sometimes I'm still figuring out how my phone works. There are so many normal life experiences I never had. I've never even eaten at Subway or McDonald's before. It sounds funny, but it shows how much of life I missed.

One thing I've been wondering about is marriage. I've never really spoken to women before, so I genuinely don't know how this works in practice.

If I meet someone for marriage, is my prison past something I have to tell her? If so, when is the right time to bring it up? Early on? Only if things become serious? Or is it something that should only be mentioned if it directly affects the marriage?

I'm not trying to hide anything or deceive anyone. I just don't know what the Islamic etiquette is, especially since Allah has concealed many of our pasts and I know exposing sins unnecessarily is discouraged. At the same time, I want to be fair and honest with someone I might marry.

I'd really appreciate advice grounded in Islam rather than judgment.

Jazakum Allahu khayran.

As-salamu alaykum.

I have an honest question, especially for practicing Muslims.

I'm 34 years old. I work as a dishwasher at a fast-food restaurant, and alhamdulillah I earn enough to support myself. Soon, in sha Allah, I'll also be starting a second job as a street cleaner. I live in my own two-bedroom apartment, and I'm grateful to Allah for everything He has given me.

I also have a prison past, but alhamdulillah Allah allowed me to be paroled, and I've been trying to build my life in a halal way ever since.

Sometimes I compare myself to all the successful people I see online, and it makes me wonder if someone like me would even be considered for marriage. I don't have a prestigious career or a university education, and I may never be wealthy.

My question is: would a practicing Muslim woman overlook my job and past if she saw sincere repentance, good character, and a man who works hard through halal means? Or would being a dishwasher or street cleaner be a dealbreaker?

How would you feel about someone who hasn't had any contact with their family for nearly 20 years? Would that be something that would bother you or make you hesitant, or would you want to understand the reasons before judging?

I'm genuinely interested in hearing different perspectives.

Please be honest. I'm not looking for sympathy just genuine perspectives. May Allah guide us all to spouses who value taqwa, honesty, and good character over status. Ameen.

I once had a prospect who told me he MUST have a BOY and would keep trying until he got one, to keep the last name because girls don't carry the father's name..

The guy couldn't even spell properly. 🥲

It's 2026 and this type still exists..

What about you guys? What made you run away?

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Im a 20 year old guy . Alhamdulillah im already well settled and everything. My parents sometimes bring up the topic of marriage although im not really interested in it . The idea of sharing my life with a random woman feels weird tbh . Ive never had any female friends nor have I dated or fallin Inlove . Tbh I just wanna live my life , travel the world and explore . From my pov marriage and love is just and illusion or just a comfort zone.

Hello everybody. I am 22 years old, and have been Muslim for 5 years. I just completed my BA, and I will be going into law school next year. My mosque is large enough that we have a confidential list you can put your name on if you are single and looking to get matched with someone, and I put my name on it a couple weeks ago. I got matched just recently with a Pakistani woman who is 28, so I will be meeting her and her family soon. I am having doubts about whether I am moving too fast. I think most people nowadays marry in their late 20’s or early 30’s, but also, I really want to be married. Idk, what do you guys think? Am I too young to be considering this?

Male

Age: 28

Marital Status: Never Married

Location/Residence: India

Background: Born and raised in India; previously lived in Dubai

Height: 5'7

Complexion: Olive, I think

Appearance: Arab/Persian

Education: Bachelor’s Degree

Occupation: Currently unemployed and doing occasional freelance work, with a very low income at present. I believe in being honest about where I stand. I am ambitious, actively working toward building a stable and successful future, and focused on long-term growth, InshaAllah.

Hobbies & Interests: Gym, reading, business, documentaries, travel, meaningful conversations, personal growth, and learning new perspectives

Spouse Preferences:

• Prefer someone younger and mature for her age

• Prefer someone who values family and home life

• Prefer traditional roles where the husband provides and the wife manages the household

• Looking for a patient, supportive, and understanding partner who believes in growing together through different stages of life

About Me:

I would describe myself as curious, reflective, and growth-oriented. I enjoy meaningful conversations, exploring ideas, and understanding different perspectives rather than staying at a surface level. I value depth, authenticity, emotional maturity, and sincerity in relationships.

I am not in a rush to get married immediately, as I want to first build stronger financial stability. Because of this, I am looking for a serious relationship that is intended to lead to marriage in the future rather than rushing into marriage right away. I would prefer someone who is also not in a hurry and is willing to build a strong bond, be patient, and support each other while working toward a better future together.

Intentions:

Looking only for a serious relationship with the intention of marriage. No casual interactions or time-wasting.