Supporting a late bloomer pal through divorce?
Hey gang, fellow lesbian here. I came out when I was a preteen so I’m a little out of my element here.
I have a pal (35F) who, over the past 3 years, has come to terms with the fact that she is a lesbian. She has also been long unhappy with her husband before this realization, as he is an angry fuckass. They were ENM for the past few years.
Well to the delight of everyone who knows her, she has officially initiated divorce proceedings. Her soon to be ex husband is being a real dickwad about it. Claiming she’s cheating (they both have done nothing but follow their relationship agreement, and she’s not leaving him for anyone else), sending her angry messages calling her a whore, threatening to take the house SHE paid for.
At the same time, shes feeling both freedom to be her true self, and mourning the best friendship she had with him once upon a time.
I already helped her find and get in touch with a queer family law attorney, another fellow late bloomer lesbians. She’s in good legal hands.
But I’m wondering what I, as her friend, should be doing to support her? My wife and I have already given her our apartment keys and explained we have an open door policy for her. But I know how overwhelmed she must be.
What helped y’all through this kind of time in your lives?