u/Anxious_Aspect_9170

So me(24M) currently single and I’m struggling to know how I will find my person. I go back-and-forth with “ will I find my person in person or online “.I’ve met about three women on the holy app and none of them went well At all.

Something tells me that my person isn’t on a dating app, but I struggle to trust that God will put my person in position for me to meet her in person. Everything that happens in my life dating wise always points to dating apps not being for me. I really just want to trust God more about it. Any advice would be helpful. tl;dr

So I(24M) has been talking to a(24W). We’ve only been talking for a week and things been okay. We’re long distance she’s in NY and I’m in Texas .She’s very argumentative and has a short temper . We argue about things that don’t matter. We matched on a Christian dating app. She’s insanely gorgeous but if all you have is looks then you’re not the person for me. When I talk to someone, regardless of how long it is, I am intentional and I don’t like to waste people time . I know sometimes it may seem too soon but I’ll ask regular questions like “are you keeping your options open are just talking to me”. Yk something simple .

She said “how is that relevant I’m not answering that”. Kind of threw me off . Or I’ll ask things like “ where do you see this going?” and she wouldn’t even answer the question or she’ll tell me “ you’re moving too fast. Let’s just be friends first”. Obviously, but the way that she answers the questions Throw me off really bad. So I was wondering should I keep my options open anyways

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So me(24M) has been talking to this female (22F) for a month now. I don’t want to move too fast, but I’m an intentional person. She can seem that way sometimes.. I’ve been through a lot of experiences to know that I shouldn’t be wasting my time with someone and also I do ignore a lot of red flags early on which is my fault. This past month she says she wants to be with me and wants me to stick around. Like little hints but never nothing like “ I want you to be my person, etc.”

So today I’ve started to listen to my good and I asked her

“I got a question. Do you think that we’re aligned? Like up to now since we’ve been talking, do you see yourself actually being with me in a relationship aspect or like a friend aspect”

She replied “ I don’t want to talk about that at all right now.”

I responded “I’m fine with you not wanting to talk about it, but I’m not comfortable with not knowing where we’re heading or you possibly not knowing what you actually want so we can just take it slower now”

All she did was reply dry and said OK and put her phone on do not disturb which she never does and turn her location off

I think I know the answer to this question but I want input from you guys. If a person was interested in being with me and intentional which she respond that way? Should I cut my losses now before things get worse or try to fight it?

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