My girlfriend (27f) expected me (28m) to cancel our plans to celebrate me getting a new job?
I’d recently interviewed for a new job and they gave me the date in which I’d hear back. My girlfriend and I agreed to go for a meal the day I hear back to either celebrate or commiserate depending on the outcome.
That was Friday and on Fridays morning I found out I’d got the job. I booked the place we said we’d go then when I told my gf she mentioned her friend has messaged asking if we want to go for a drink with her and her bf to catch up. She said she hasn’t seen her friends in a couple of months so it would be good to go,
I mentioned rescheduling it since we already have plans but my gf disagreed. She said we should be going to meet her friend instead but I just pointed out we were supposed to be celebrating my new job.
She just repeated that she wants to catch up with her friend so we should go to see them. I told her no and that I wouldn’t be going, I mentioned she’s disregarded our original plans and doesn’t seem bothered to actually celebrate me so I won’t be going out with her and her friend.
She called me unreasonable but I disagreed. I said it’s unreasonable to expect me to just accept her cancelling our plans and expecting me to go along with her new plans.
Does anyone have any advice on how best to approach this or have any other views on it?