AITA For wanting to move out of my current place even though my BF wants me to move where he lives?
A bit of context: Me (23F) and my BF (25M) have been dating for 2 years officially this month. We have been talking about moving in together for the past year or so. The problem thus far has been I don't make enough money on paper to get a place on my own, but his credit isn't the greatest. (Also he lives 1.5 hours away from me.) He lives with his family, while I've rented a room at one of my ex-coworkers (50F) house.
I've been living in this place for 2.5 years and its just not working for me anymore. She makes anyone who spends the night pay $20 A NIGHT to spend the night. Keep in mind I am paying rent. I'm not living here for free. I get my own food, toiletries, kitchen supplies, cleaning supplies, etc etc. And lately she's been having a guy friend over and spending some nights. I've started feeling super uncomfortable because I never know when he'll be over. She doesn't give me a heads up or anything. And he will be over almost every night.
The Conflict: I've had the opportunity to move out of the place I'm in and into a place in the current town I'm in with someone much closer to my age (24F). I jumped on the chance. I am ready to get out of this situation. I told my BF that this would be a TEMPORARY situation until we can find a place. But he argues its me trying to get away from him and not move to where he lives. My alternative is 4+ hours away rather than 1.5 hours. So I decided the option to stay 1.5 hours away. The new lease is 6 months long. Not too long at all and it gives us time to save up and to be ready to move.
Now he's telling me that I'm trying to make us spend less time together because I'm trying to get a second job and I'm moving. Every decision I've been making has been for the future of us eventually moving in together. But AITA? Am I missing something?
UPDATE:
Okay wow a lot of responses in less than 3 hours.
FAQ
Is he doing anything to improve his credit score?
Yes he is currently paying off his debt from credit cards. He wasn't necessarily the cause of that but he is taking responsibility about it and paying it off.
Is he doing anything to save up?
His family situation is interesting. He pays for 50% (at least) of all the stuff in the house. His sisters treat him like an ATM so saving isn't exactly easy for him. I've been the sole one saving because of how his family is.
Does he work?
Yes! He's a full time teacher!
Why doesn't he move where you are?
I have what I would call "Survival Jobs" I want to move where he is to have more opportunities in my field.