AITA for telling a friend that it’s ok for the guys to hang out in the garage during one of many get togethers
I, 40 year old female told my 49 year old female friend, Jessica (not real name for anonymity)that it’s ok to let the guys hang out in the garage while the women hang out in the house during a get together that she and her husband hosted at their home.
Jessica became increasingly intoxicated and belligerent over the men spending time in the garage while the women stayed inside. Although their garage is fully set up for socializing with seating, games, and a TV — and is a popular hangout spot among their guests — Jessica has always strongly disliked people gathering there.
It was also apparent that she had instructed her husband that he and the guys could not be in the garage, not remain in the garage for extended periods when grabbing drinks and that they must remain in the house with the women At all times.
To be clear, these are frequent get togethers with generally the same group of people who are all like family to the hosting couple and the women have never previously had a problem hanging out together without the men.
As the night went on and Jessica’s intoxication worsened, she repeatedly and angrily fixated on the issue, asking each friend over and over if she was “an asshole for wanting her husband inside“‘citing the reasons being that she wanted him “just inside and inside with her”.
The topic dominated much of the evening and created visible awkwardness for everyone present.
While heavily intoxicated to the point her eyes were closing/passing out, Jessica continued obsessively revisiting the same argument. Eventually, I told her that while her feelings were valid, it was also perfectly fine for the men to spend time in the garage because we ( the women) were fine and enjoyed the girl time together without the men constantly present. This upset Jessica further because I had a difference of opinion, I voiced an opinion and I didn’t continue to be her “yes” friend. While most others attempted to quash the situation by simply agreeing in hopes that being agreeable would provide her with the justification she required.
the next day Jessica asked anyone who would listen if she‘s an asshole for not liking my statement And if I’m the asshole for making this statement.
So AITH?
The Jessica series