Abandonment after disclosure
I was SA’d by an older brother beginning I don’t know when. It was always there. When it stopped I was in high school. He went to college. Without going into details after our father died I finally decided to confront my mother about her knowing about it and doing nothing to stop it. There were many clues over the years that she knew. She said as much to my ex. Told my ex that my brother and I have to “deal with it”. That was 15 years ago. Fast forward and my father died. We buried him. The brother who SA’d me didn’t show up to the funeral. That evening I told his late wife (parents divorced when I was in my early 20’s) about the abuse. I couldn’t tell my father. I don’t know why. But a few weeks later I confronted my mother in an email and accused her of knowing about it and doing nothing to stop it. She cut me off, and my siblings cut me off too. She’s 90 now. I’m in my early 60s. I always thought at least one sibling would come to my defence. Nope. Also, my brother admitted in a drunken confession to me many years earlier that he “had a sedual relationship with our older sister.” So add incst to the mix. He has also confessed to me when he was a teen - during the years that the abuse happened- that he had r*ped a girl at a drive in movie theater. Bottom line is that I got cut off and painted as delusional by my whole birth family. They’re sick and morally bankrupt. I don’t know why I want any relationship with any of them but I would have liked to be acknowledged rather than ghosted. I guess I’m the family scapegoat. Thanks for listening.