u/Any-Investigator6984

(I put this into chatgpt bc i wasn’t tryna type all that but if you have any questions just ask) Before anything, I already know I can be an overthinker, so I’m not looking for comments just telling me that. I’m trying to step back and get an outside perspective on the actual pattern of behavior here, not just my interpretation.
I started talking to this girl around early April when she hit me up on Instagram. At first things were going really well. It felt mutual — she was showing interest, I was matching it, and we ended up talking pretty consistently for about two weeks.
During that time, we were doing the typical talking stage stuff: FaceTiming, good morning and good night texts, and talking every day. It felt pretty active and normal for a developing talking stage.
Then out of nowhere,she started getting more dry over text and she told me she “doesn’t really have time to talk to people in a relationship way right now.” I didn’t argue it, I just acknowledged it and backed off a bit to give her space and whatnot.
Even after that, though, she didn’t fully disappear. She kept in contact with me pretty consistently through Snapchat, sending face snaps and she would randomly hit me up and in those convos, When I would try to engage more and carry conversations, she would sometimes get dry or the convo would fade. But when I pulled back, she would sometimes start initiating again and be more engaged.
A few days ago, she started texting me again more actively and said she had been busy with school tests but was starting to get less busy. Since then, she’s been initiating conversations again and responding pretty quickly when she starts them. So overall communication has picked back up.
In person, she’s always been comfortable with me. She’s fine being around her friends while I’m there, we’ve FaceTimed while she’s with other people, and she doesn’t act awkward or distant in real life. So it’s not like she’s two different people online vs in person.
The confusing part for me is the inconsistency. She previously said she didn’t have time for relationships or talking stages, but her behavior sometimes shows interest and sometimes doesn’t. It feels like a push-pull dynamic where the effort level changes depending on the moment.
Another thing that added to my confusion is that during the period where she said she didn’t have time to talk, I noticed her viewing my TikTok profile and reposting certain TikToks that felt indirectly related to relationships or emotional situations and putting indirect stuff like that on her instagram note (like “I miss you” type posts or “I regret things” type content). I don’t know if those were actually about me or just random reposts.
Because of everything combined, my current theory (not something I’m claiming is true) is that maybe she was talking to me, then something else happened in between (like another person or situation), and now she’s back talking to me again. But I genuinely don’t know and I’m not trying to assume anything.
So overall I’m just trying to figure out if this looks like something that’s actually developing in a normal way, or if it’s more inconsistent than it seems from the outside.
I do find her attractive and I’m interested, but I’m trying to decide whether it’s worth actually pursuing seriously or just keeping it casual and not overinvesting emotionally.

**TL;DR:**
Girl I was talking to was very consistent at first, then randomly said she didn’t have time for relationships. She still stayed in contact, but the dynamic became push-pull and inconsistent. Recently she started talking to me again more actively. I’m confused whether this is normal early-stage inconsistency or something more unstable, and I’m trying to decide whether to pursue it seriously or keep it casual.