Talking every day for 3 months and suddenly dry/distant for 2 days
I’m 20M and she’s 19F. We met on Hinge about 3 months ago and since then we’ve talked every single day through texts, calls, voice notes, etc. We’ve hung out a lot in person too and have been intimate. Overall the connection has felt really strong and mutual. She’s usually affectionate, initiates plans, and talks about me to people around her. Like literally 3 days ago she told me she mentioned me to her mom and said she was “dating someone.” Then this morning her roommate told me she was bragging to her friends a couple days ago about how I took her out for her birthday.
So logically I know those are really positive signs and not the behavior of someone completely uninterested.
But the last 2 days specifically the texting energy has felt noticeably different and it’s honestly throwing me off because it’s a sharp contrast from how we normally talk.
Yesterday we talked around 3pm and I told her to have a good day at work. She got off around 7pm but didn’t text me again until around 11pm. Usually throughout the day or at least once she’ll ask how my day’s going, what I’m up to, tell me to have fun with whatever I’m doing, check in on me a little, etc. But this time there was basically none of that energy.
Then late at night she hit me up first, I answered pretty quickly, and then she just opened my response and disappeared. Today I sent a good morning voice message asking how she slept/how she was doing and she ignored that part completely. Then later on she mostly just texted asking if dinner tonight with her friend was still on and the convo felt really surface level compared to normal.
At one point I lightly asked “u good last night?” because she hit me up and then disappeared after I answered. She literally just replied “Yes.” No explanation or anything. That honestly threw me off because most people would elaborate at least a little. I just replied “Okay” because the response felt kinda dry/off to me and then she just read that too.
What’s confusing me is her actions overall still seem invested:
- she’s still making plans with me
- tonight’s dinner is still happening
- she talks about me to her friends/family
- she still responds
- she doesn’t seem like she’s trying to completely avoid me
But the actual communication energy feels lower and I’m someone who really notices/appreciates little things like check-ins, asking about my day, good morning texts/voice notes, conversational effort, etc because that’s what makes me feel like someone genuinely cares.
So now I genuinely can’t tell if:
- I’m overthinking 2 slightly off days
- she’s just mentally distracted/tired and bad at texting sometimes
- or if this is how people usually start slowly pulling away emotionally
Should I bring it up again and double text/check in more directly? Or should I just leave it alone for now and pay attention to how she acts over the next couple days/in person?