Please someone give it to me straight
Please someone talk some sense into me
Newly divorced (like within a few weeks) and went on a work trip just expecting it to be very ho-hum. Our entire team is spread out geographically so even within our smaller sub-teams this was a first time for many of us to meet in person especially as there’s been some turnover since the last in-person conference/training at this level.
I met someone who is assigned to a different team than me (his team is considered our sister/competitor team) and is ranked against my team. He’s been in the organization longer than me and has been successful and is open to sharing tips with others. I’ve heard his name being thrown around (in a good way when I first arrived) so I know he’s legit in that regard. Also I couldn’t help but notice how attractive he was the first day (but obviously didn’t say anything to anyone or act on anything).
We met each other in person for the first time the second day during this conference and swapped numbers as he’s been there a few years than me and so on a professional level, we have good information to share since we do the same job (in just different areas).
The last night of our conference, each small sub-team broke off and did their own mini work morale event after hours (conference ended the next day aka our travel day). I ran into him in our hotel lobby that last night as I was waiting for an uber to meet up with a girlfriend for a drink who just so happened to be in town for her wedding later that week (with plans to join my team for dinner later as my friend had plans later). He texted me as I was out asking how the place I went to was and we ended up texting each other back and forth all night (talking about hoping to meet up after our plans with our teams but ultimately couldn’t due to logistics, finding out he had to fly out early for work obligations at his office and wouldn’t be able to join us for our last half day of training, finding out he thought I was attractive and had to ask my team coworkers to introduce us which actually happened and how we both wish we had gotten to talking much earlier in this four day conference, him admitting he had a crush on me and was happy to find out I’m also single). It’s all been very appropriate and respectful. I even spilled the tea to my close and trustworthy platonic male co-worker and all he could do was giggle (because it’s obviously been awhile for me to be around the dating scene). I didn’t get any red flags but then again I just met the guy.
The next day (aka the last day of our conference/our travel day), we texted a little bit back and forth but not as frequent or consistent. It feels like it’s fizzled. Granted it wasn’t a super big deal to begin with, right?
Now I am back at my home base and he is back at his and I’m not sure if I should just wait for him to reach out (if he ever does) and there’s been zero communication. I feel the full on infatuation right now and to be honest, meeting him (and all this communication) was not on my bingo card this soon to my divorce being finalized.
I had told myself to decenter men and swear off dating for at least a few years and then this happens. What should I do? Should I just wait for him to reach out or could I text him something friendly just to see or what? We both agreed to keep in touch and to reach out even for work related questions. I’m not trying to find the love of my life but I have this newfound energy lol and I want to text him (casually of course).
Helpppp lol I thought all these giddy feelings would never return to me after having been in such an unfulfilling relationship/marriage for so long.