I (28-M) feel like my partner (25-F) has double standards
I (28m) and partner (25f) have been together for a couple years. This isn't necessarily isolated to this relationship, but I have been wondering - is it reasonable to share equal expectations?
My belief is that an ideal relationship is one where you are there for each other in your inevitable human moments of vulnerability. Sometimes you have more to give, and spare that part of yourself for your partner who's feeling down, then they return the favour when you're down. I only expect as much from someone I consider my equal, and importantly, cares about me as equally as I do them.
I feel like most relationships where hetero gender norms are assumed, I always feel the need to be the rock in the relationship (listen to rants, comfort their breakdowns, provide reassurance, physical care and doing chores/acts of service as much as needed to make them feel better).
Naturally, I have a tendency to expect that my partner would sometimes be my rock, or be understanding if I'm a bit moody (?) but after many such relationships - a pressure has only grown, which tells me that I can't afford to show my true feelings/be upset because if I don't respond perfectly; then I'm not going to be catered to and it'll likely prompt them to be upset (so I need to concede to maintain the relationship).
It kind of sucks because I honestly feel unworthy of love when such fights happen. I'd really appreciate some nuance outside of breaking up!