u/Any_Web5458

I don’t want to sound ungrateful. But I can’t help but be disappointed about what my best friend/moh planned for my bachelorette party. When she asked me what I wanted to do, I had told her about maybe renting a cabin for the weekend and doing a glamping trip, or maybe a road trip. She said that it sounded fun and she wrote it in her planning notebook. She asked me if I wanted to be surprised or if I wanted to help plan my party. I told her that whatever she planned could be a surprise and I trusted her.

I was talking to my mom and had told her I had scheduled my trial hair and makeup for my bachelorette party and that I was excited to plan my outfits for the weekend. She told me that the MOH had only planned a paint and sip and then dinner at a wing joint. There was nothing else planned. Only 3 hours and then everyone goes home. I asked another bridesmaid, who was in on the planning, if that was true. She said it was and that my MOH didn’t even entertain anyone else’s ideas for a trip. I was really sad that my input wasn’t taken into account. But whatever. I guess we could also do nothing.

But then, I found out that my MOH, who is also MOH for someone else, is planning not one but two separate bachelorette weekends out of the country. This other bride got engaged 3 months ago. Whereas I have been engaged for over a year and she was my MOH the whole time. I feel like my party was an afterthought and that she, frankly, half assed it. That she felt she could get away with doing less because she’s my best friend and that I gave her full creative freedom to do whatever.

I have gone out of my way to be as easy and agreeable as possible. But this just makes me feel like I care more about them than they do about me. I kind of don’t even want to do it now. Should I just shut up and just go ahead with the evening? Or is there a way I can approach this without hurting anyone’s feelings? Or can I just say “Hey, I changed my mind. I would rather not do a bachelorette party anymore?”