Past year was the worse, ex wife got into GLP-1 nutrition plan and started to change drastically, she started to ignoring me, stopped sleeping with me (I mean, at different hours), she started getting out with her single girlfriends more often and she spend almost every night speaking to her friends on the xbox.
I got depressed, started psychiatric treatment because I have anxiety problems and ADHD, got isolated in a room sleeping almost 20 hours a day, It was really hard for me to step out of the bed including work.
Every time I asked my ex wife what was happening she always told me different stuff like “we married too young” “we skipped some experiences” “you are just anxious get some help” “its not you, its me” “i feel like i did nothing with my life” but every time I wanted to address something that she said she always knocked me out with a “forget it, i just said that because I don’t really know what is happening” .
I started to go out by myself or with friends, I started to hang out with more people, I started to meeting new people and I think I started to go out almost every day a week because the feeling of being in my home wasn’t too good. I took my decision about this on December because since we live together I took care of everything, pets, bills, food, debts, cleaning and I started feeling used by her.
So we got separated on February, she took it like, different, she started traveling and then 3 weeks later she asked me for another chance, I said no and I keep with my life.
But there is something, I met a woman, I did not have a plan to be single again or something because we were together since 17yo so I really don’t know how to flirt or anything like that. But I met this woman and everything started to make sense, we were a lot alike, she’s divorced too. My friends told me that its like too early, but I don’t feel that way I don’t know why, also talked about it with my therapist and she told me like “haven’t you suffered too much already? Go ahead” and everything is going like, perfect.
Im in the bad here? Should I take time to “be myself” even if I don’t really have interest in it? I mean, I wasn’t planning any of this, actually my first thought was that probably I was going to pass the rest of my life alone. But who knows, this just happened and we matched like CRAZY. Feels like something greater than just coincidence.
What do you think about this? Please help me. My ex wife and an ex friend of mine are talking like shit about it because I do not provide for her anymore, we dont have any child so.