I’m worried about the future of my relationship. Me (25F) and my boyfriend (27M) have been together for 5 years. He moved to my home country for school. When we initially met, he expressed that he would like to live in other cities in my home Country. I agreed, as I would like to experience living in new places, but I am scared to leave home and my family. However, being in the same country I would always be a short plane ride away.
But, the last couple years he’s expressed interest in moving outside of my home country for work, anywhere from a 20-30hr plane ride away. I don’t know if I can do it. A part of me thinks that I would love the new experience, but the other part of me is terrified.
He’s saying that I knew that this was going to be a part of the relationship and I have to be open to the idea of moving abroad before we can think about getting married.
I love him so much and I really want to make this work, but what if I can’t do it? What if I get somewhere else and get depressed and have to move back home? He’s already moved countries before and he’s not scared of picking up and starting fresh somewhere else. I’m scared about having to get a job, possibly learn a language, and not being close to family. He would be my only support system. Yes, I’ve expressed this to him, but he says it’s a potential non-negotiable thing that comes with being in a relationship with him.
I appreciate any advice or insights you all might have on what I should do in this situation. Thanks!