It seems like people on here are much more generous in their view of plus ones than I do so it would be good to here your perspective on this. My friend, let’s call her Emma, was on and off with a guy for about 6 months when I sent out save the dates. They aren’t living together. I’ve met him a few times.
To not have to leave out people we are close to our 65 people wedding we didn’t give plus ones to people who hadn’t been dating for more than 8 months. I told everyone personally and they all were fine with it. Emma is part of a friend group who is coming to the wedding. Another friend in that group is single. Emma said it’s fine that Adam doesn’t come. Things weren’t good between them and she didn’t even want him there. She asked me to seat her next to a single guy. She brought it up the next time I met her a few days later, that she really wants me to seat her next to a hot single guy. One friend said he couldn’t make it so I invited a guy on our reserve list who I thought she might like to make her happy.
2 weeks later, we all meet up and she says things are super good with Adam now and he really wants to come to the wedding. I was stunned and didn’t answer.
1 month later she wrote to me that things are really good and they are talking about moving in together. Then she writes that she really wants him at my wedding.
I told her that we’ve actually maxed our venue limit and that we have cousins of my finance on the reserve list that he’s really like to come if we get cancellations. She said she would appreciate it if I talk to my fiance and ask if her boyfriend could come. I feel so much pressure from her. Is it wrong to prioritise my fiancé’s cousin?