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My hen do is next week. One of the girls let slip that a butler in the buff has been arranged. She is freaking out as she wasn’t meant to tell me.

I am super anxious about this and not particularly thrilled to be honest. I’m an introvert, my mum and MIL will be at the hen and I’m just really dreading it now.

If they literally will just be serving drinks I’m ok with that. Does anyone know what I can expect? I absolutely do not want a strip show or anything like that and will probably walk out my hen crying if that’s what will happen. I don’t like being the centre of attention!! The girl who told me is not the person who has booked it.

Thanks in advance! (Sorry this wasn’t exactly wedding related but hopefully someone here might know)

Got engaged early this year. Set a date for 2028 and have started researching but not planning in earnest by any means. My FMIL has turned her nose up, quite literally, at every planning choice we have even vaguely mentioned (and it is vague because we haven’t even booked a venue yet!)

I know the classic advice is a strict info diet, which we are planning on doing. But before we start seriously planning, I’m wondering if anyone has sat down with their respective parents and asked them what they think a wedding should look like/what they imagined for their kids? Phrasing and boundaries are obviously key. Or either way does this way lie madness and setting ourselves up to fail?

My parents are divorced and very much not amicable, so my wedding has always been a source of anxiety for me and them. I actually think this is why they have been surprisingly chill thus far.

I want to be kind and inclusive but I’m not a doormat, and I actually think MIL’s been really rude. We are planning on paying for everything ourselves.

We’ve just got engaged and are looking to get married September 2027! Ideally we’re looking for a barn wedding but anything rustic vibes fits us perfectly.

We have a £10,000 budget for everything but are struggling to find a venue and catering that fits. Most are around £8k just for venue and food!

Any suggestions or tips would be great!

Edit: we live in Lincoln but have family in Nottingham so anywhere around the two

Recently married in London and it was the best experience of my life! Full of love and laughs and just general good vibes.

Started getting pictures sent from friends and family and there are very obvious asymmetrical horizontal creases in the bodice of my dress which was meant to be completely smooth.

I didn’t get a chance to see myself in a full length mirror when I was getting ready and before I knew it I was walking down the aisle. I felt really good and I got loads of compliments - it don’t think it look that obvious in person - but in every single picture my eye is drawn to these shadow creating creases. I feel like I look disheveled which as a bride is not the vibe I was going for.

My husband has emailed the photographer just to say that if he sees pictures with particularly strong creases if he could smooth them out but I can’t help but be a bit sad that my friends and family will have the the pictures they took with the creases and I’ll have potentially edited pictures which just makes me feel like they’ll be fake.

My mum has shrugged it off calling me a perfectionist and my husband is saying “it’s not that bad”, both statements have made me feel a bit worse.

I don’t know if I’m fishing for sympathy or words of encouragement or just to be told I’m being foolish worrying about something that shouldn’t be a big deal, but my disappointment hurts my soul and I feel bad for feeling bad. This may well be the consequences of the post wedding blues and I’m just emotionally charged. Anyways. I really hope I get over it.

I'm looking for recommendations for a wedding photographer for our small Islington Town Hall wedding in June 2027.

I've been searching google and Instagram for what feels like forever, but I'm struggling to find someone whose style matches what we're after. I love photos that feel natural, candid and documentary-style rather than overly posed. I'm also drawn to softer, true-to-life editing rather than the very bright or moody, high-contrast look that seems to be popular at the moment. I love film photography, too.

As it's just a city hall wedding, we'd only need around 2-3 hours of coverage, so I'm also hoping to find someone who offers shorter packages without charging an extortionate amount.

If anyone has recommendations, I'd really appreciate it!! Thank you

Hi everyone. I am based in the UK (north London) and getting married on September. I am originally from Istanbul and the traditions here are totally different. How do you do your bridal make up, who do you call or where do you go for it. I really need your help, truly appreciated. I honestly don’t know my way around.

Hey!

What kind of hen-do “favours” did you have, if any?

I love the idea of personalised sunglasses with “****’s Hen Do” on them, plus some other bits but I’m also wondering whether it’s just buying tat for the sake of it. They probably won’t get used again and aren’t really something people can resell or pass on.

I’d love to hear what little extras you had at your hens, especially anything that felt fun but still useful.

From a first-time Maid of Honour 💍😅

You were all so helpful in my most recent post about which neckline to get, and I felt excited to see my seamstress for the first time yesterday evening, but I left feeling quite dejected.

She was very discouraging of any major alterations (including changing the neckline and adding sleeves) and told me to buy a lace bridal jacket instead. I was a bit put off by this, but brushed it off.

I need the the hem shortened and I need a bustle attached. The dress is 7 layers, including a lace trim that would require it to be unstitched and reattached. She's quoted me over £500 which is almost half of the dress!

My mum is a reasonable home sewer and she's offered to do it for me for free but I think this is too risky to DIY.

Is this a reasonable quote? I'm in the southeast for reference. Thanks everyone

I'm hoping you can give me some suggestions on what to read.

For context my Dad has asked me to do a reading at his wedding and I am struggling to find something to read. He left my mum for his wife to be (who has already been married twice), not that long ago and there are generally still a lot of emotions flying around about it. The issues I'm finding when I look at readings are that they talk about: forever love; how amazing marriage is; how you should love forever; how you adore your partner and chose to spend forever with them etc. These obviously don't ring very true with me (or most people who will be at the ceremony) who know their past. Is there any reading/poems that I can do that touch on the fact these two people have chosen to be together without being contradictory to their pasts.

Or do I just pick a soppy 'love is magical and forever and you're both amazing' and just grin my way through it?

So my sons getting married this year & my future DIL

ISNT WORRYING ABOUT DOING

THE OLD , NEW, BORROWED & BLUE

WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD TODAY

I’m reaching out to photographers for our wedding (no luck yet) and just wanted to ask here whether anyone has had experiences with asking the photographer not to post their wedding?

As I understand it the photographer owns the photos by law and can use them, but for private reasons we can’t have our wedding posted as we are keeping it secret from a chunk of our extended families (cultural issues) and it would be very damaging for us to have the photos out there.

I understand photographers need to build their portfolios to bring on new clients. I’d be fine with them sharing a few shots where our faces aren’t identifiable or details shots etc but we can’t have our full wedding gallery online.

Will it be a problem finding a photographer who agrees to this?

Going to a wedding in August that is mostly outside, and really would like a dress under or close to £100. However, all the dresses I can see are completely polyester and I don’t want to sweat all day! Does anyone have any recommendations for a website (uk based preferably) for wedding guest dresses that are cotton or natural materials? Spending £100 on a plastic dress seems crazy to me

I'm having a church ceremony in Glossop so I'm on the hunt for a wedding venue in the peaks. Apart from barns and other extortionate venues I'm not having much luck...

Would love to opt for Buxton Crescent but you're looking at £12,000+ for not even 60 guests.

Any ideas?

We are both kind of irked by the whole wedding industry and all that faff.
So I was thinking to just get married in the registry office and then straight go to town have a bottomless brunch or something and party til we can with a couple of ppl.

Did anybody done this before and if yes how did it go? :)

I Stacey (30F) am getting married to my partner Ben (30M) of 10 years bding together in 2 weeks and we are from the UK.

All names have been changed for privacy.

all of the planning is almost comple, so its just a wait for the big day. I have a childhood friend Called Sophie (30F) who i have known for a long time, we used to be very close and best friends until 4 years ago when we began to drift apart.

For some context, 4 years ago I was diagnosed with a rare heart and lung condition, and I was put on Oxygen for longterm use. During this time we talked almost everyday whilst I was in hospital, but I felt like it was mostly one sided. When I was discharged from hospital, I asked Sophie to meet for a coffee and a catch up, she agreed and it was planned.

On the day we were meant to meet, it was my first time out on my own with my oxygen bag, she was 30 mins late due to traffic and only stayed for 40 mins due to a booked nail appointment that she had.

Following this the meet ups were mostly one sided with me reaching out and arranging plans, because of this I was hurt, and decided to distance myself from Sophie.

Me and Sophie over the years became distant, with it still mostly one sided, Sophie however was making the effort with gifts at Christmas and birthdays. When we meet up I feel as if we have nothing in common anymore. And I have another wonderful group of friends, who have shown me how true friends are.

Sophie has a fiancé called Jamie (23M) who is my close friend, and bridesmaid Jessica's (30F) ex fiancé's brother, which their relationship ended on very bad terms. Jamie and Jessica do not get along at all, jamie is very outspoken and is not a good person. Especially once he has had a drink and would make mean comments to my bridesmaid Jessica and her family who are also invited.

For this reason, I made the difficult decision to not invite Jamie to our wedding. I have also made the decision to not have Sophie as a bridesmaid, as we have drifted apart over the years and dont have much in common.

However I have recently had a Hen party, where I invited Sophie to come. We all had a fun day, a couple of days after the hen party I had a message from sophie asking why her partner Jamie is not invited to the wedding, and why she isnt a bridesmaid as she feels that because she is a childhood friend and has known me longer than anyone, then she should automatically be a bridesmaid. And she is very annoyed with me as she has expressed this.

Sophie has also got strong feelings against Jessica, she has been brainwashed by Jamie and his brother Jake (31M) and is not keen on her at all.

I was then honest and told Sophie the reason why Jamie isnt invited to the wedding, and why she isnt a bridesmaid. The reason being because I did not want him to cause any upset for Jessica and her family by him being confrontational and nasty which will happen once he has had a drink. And also because Jessica is a very good friend and has been there for me throughout everything.

Sophie then expressed that she was very annoyed, and that it isnt fair that she isnt a bridesmaid, as she has known me longer than any of the others. However i feel that we aren't in school anymore, we both have our own lives and friends as adults and have become distant. Sophie is also annoyed that Jamie isnt invited, as she feels that he wont cause any drama or upset for Jessica and her family. Which I strongly disagree with.

Because of this Sophie has not invited Ben to her wedding, and has not had me as a bridesmaid. Which I dont care about, but I however will not be throwing a tantrum over it, but I have asked why he isnt invited for context.

AITA for not having Sophie as a bridesmaid, and for not inviting her fiancé Ben to the wedding?

Hi everyone! We're eloping this August, and I'm exploring alternatives to the traditional bridal bouquet.

Has anyone here opted for a wrist corsage instead of carrying a bouquet on their wedding day? I always thought corsages were mainly for the mothers or bridesmaids, so I'm wondering if it would look out of place for the bride.

Any suggestions or pics are welcomed! Thanks x