My friend who ghosted me for over a year reached out recently
It’s as the title says. I had a friend, let’s call her V. V and I met during college, we had classes together. We quickly became friends and started to get together outside of school. A thing I was swift to notice about V was her taking ages to respond to messages. Sometimes. We’re talking months here, 1-3 at worst. Not always but it did happen. It was very different when we were together in real life and class, we got along well, but still. I was mainly the one to initiate hang outs, from what I remember. Anyway-
During summer break we roughly had any contact (the taking months to reply thing), and from what I recall she didn’t finish college that year and instead took off to a different country. For what I don’t remember. I finished college last year and took a gap year. I reached out to her that same month I graduated from college, telling her I graduated, hoping she was doing well and asking her if she’d want to hang out sometime. Months went by. I never got a reply. I saw she was online at times too, but still. Never once got a response. She changed her profile picture once last year, liked comments under said post too. Never replied. This year she changed it again. Still not a word from her.
Then this May, I hear from her.
After a year and five months of ghosting me, of not replying, she says this: “Hi, I’m sorry for being so bad at texting. How are you?”
I hate to admit it but I did have a breakdown over this. I was upset. I was mad. I was frustrated, because over a year had passed since my original message, and all I got was this from her? No acknowledgement of ghosting me for the past year?
I did end up having a good cry about it to say the least.
I guess I’m wondering if I’m right to feel this way. I do think I am. I know a lot of things can change and happen in someone’s life, I know there could be reasons why, yet all I could think of was how shitty it felt to not hear from her last year. How seeing her online, seeing her post hurt knowing she never once replied to my message and that all I got when she did finally reach out was that.
For anyone wondering I spent an hour debating whether to respond or not, chose ultimately not to and deleted the chat.