I'm not sure what to do
Hey! I would really like some advice on an issue my partner and I are facing.
At one point in time, we were both sex addicts. He is still struggling with it, while I've done a 180 and now struggle to find the motivation to be intimate. One of the reasons I changed was because he was talking/sexting other women online. Normally, this wouldn't bother me so much, but he says he can only get off to someone with whom he has a personal connection. Him having these personal connections with the people hes sexting and sharing photos with is what I struggle to accept/allow. We've been together for nearly 9 years, and I genuinely don't think he's ever been truly faithful to me.
Considering all of this and the fact that I'm now completely numb to his actions, I'm considering an open relationship with him.
Neither of us can afford to live on our own, so if I end it, we're both fucked. I also really do love him. Other than the "cheating", he is a really amazing partner.
I just don't know how to help him without hurting myself in the process.