u/Apprehensive_Rock_65

I spent money on my credit card. Like before it was a small amount. Now its larger.. My husband found out after finding that I spent money on a card app. He said either I give up everything. My debit card and credit cards and no account access at all or we divorce. We have other issues as well but this. I have fucked up. I dont want to lose all autonomy. I am willing to get rid of every credit card I have and pay the amount back on my own. But he doesnt want that. What do I do?