I lost my whole friend group over a year ago. I still can wrap my head around it.
I lost my whole friend group within a few weeks over a year ago now and honestly I still haven’t properly got my head wrapped around it.
These were people I spoke to every day for years. We were always on xbox, out doing stuff, sending stupid videos and talking about life in general. Then all of a sudden things just started changing and I could tell something was off.
I started noticing they were all going out for drinks together and I was never invited once. At first I tried not to overthink it, but eventually I got to the point where I actually had to ask to be invited places and honestly once I had to do that, I just knew things weren’t the same anymore.
Instead of causing arguments or acting like a dick, I actually tried speaking to each of them properly and asked what was going on and if I’d done something wrong because nobody would actually tell me anything straight.
What hurt the most is they all started going out with someone who has literally put hands on my fiancée before, which genuinely shocked me because I could never imagine doing that to one of my "mates".
One of them apologised recently (last week) and admitted things were handled badly, but it still doesn’t really change how shit the whole situation felt.
I think the hardest part is how fast everything changed. One minute you’ve got people to talk to every day and the next your phone just goes silent and you start questioning yourself constantly wondering if you were the problem the whole time.
I know people will say “just make new friends” but it’s not that easy when you’ve known people for years and genuinely cared about them.
I am just here to really vent and to try get some help as Its all ive really thought about for so long.
Just wondering if anyone else has went through losing all their friends at once because even after over a year I still don’t fully know how to process it.