u/AppropriateAd2334

I just lost a parent. My landlady was calling, I declined her phone and texted her "My mother has died and I am not in the right space to talk". She called a few weeks later, and was extremely curious about "How old was she?" "Oh, so she had you when you were older?" "Was she sick or was it sudden?" "What was she sick with?". It seemed kindly meant, but ugh. It 1. annoyed me 2. I don't see how any of this is relevant to her, since she never knew the woman 3. Seems like curiosity more than a desire to give me a chance to talk. Is there a universal stance on this?

My landlady loves doing them.There's something humilating about being nearly 30, with a career, and having some granny come check if you keep your room clean. Also, my mother died recently and THIS is when she decides to show up. Like, really, you weren't here for months and somehow you figured this was the perfect time to think about your flat?

She also wants to only come mornings-"I don't want it to be dark when I'm outside". And likes bringing those fugly plastic tablecloths to "prevent surfaces being damaged". I don't keep them on when she's not aorund, so I have to remember to put them back on when she comes-it's obnoxious.

I do try to keep the place(altough I immensly resent the pressure of having to do it for someone else to be satisfied and not for me), but I can't help but ask-if I didn't keep the place clean, so what? Just hire a service from my deposit and clean it after I leave.

I haven't bothered her with any kind of repair/maintenance request in one year and a half, and you'd think she'd return the favour by giving me some peace, but alas. When I finally get my own place, getting rid of those visits will be the no.1 reason.

Every time I said "eh, they're not the greatest leader, but I'm just here to do my job"/"I just love this extracurricular and don't want to quit"/''Maybe we'll learn to get along eventually", they went out of their way to reach my breaking point. And everytime I look back and realize it would have been a better idea to just leave at first sign of discomfort on my part.

I'm not saying instantly leave your job the moment your boss gives an unfairly harsh criticism. But it's the right moment to start looking for other jobs-so you can comfortably have another one before she reaches the "unbearable" stage. Trust me, she will.