u/Appropriate_Rest_860

Hello! I'm a new climber, had my first session a few days ago and really enjoyed it. I've been told that you're supposed to warm up before you climb but have no idea what stretches I should be doing and how long should even be stretching for? Should I also be doing those same stretches after a climb?

It's been two days since I went and my shoulders are still very achy. But I honestly think thats because I didn't warm up at all, and I pushed myself way too far for a first session.

Any and all advice is appreciated!

Hello. I need advice but have never posted on reddit before.

I have recently come back from my first year at uni and it was amazing. I loved having my own space/ freedom but now I'm back at home and feel so suffocated.

Since I've been away I've gained an interest in outdoor hobbies but my grandparents (who i live with) are always reluctant to let me go outside. For context I live in a pretty rough urban area in the UK but I still dont see why I have to ask permission to go to the shops round the corner or ask for permission to go into town or am not even allowed to go out and birdwatch a few minutes away from our house?

I am 19 and have spent a full year away from them so I don't know why my grandma doesn't let me go out somewhere unless she comes with me?

Furthermore I'm also a member of the LGBTQ community and my grandparents and sibling have pretty bigoted views when it comes to that sort of thing and it just really hurts to hear. Especially my brother. He's also talked about "having a roster of foids" unironically. (For context I'm a trans dude so he also always loves to remind me how ill never be a man and humiliate me because I'm physically weaker then he is)

Currently writing this in the bathroom so no one can interrupt me. I also can't just block it out because they're always going on about stuff in the news/ life isn't like how it used to be/ condemning immigrants and trans people, both of them are half deaf so they're not quiet when they talk, especially about things like this which upset them.

I just want to get away but I can't.

My grandparents have been a big help in my life, they've saved me from a very abusive situation with my mother a few years back. So i feel in debt towards them. I'm grateful but I don't like the people they're becoming. My feelings just make me feel like I'm the one being ungrateful. Especially because they've supported me so much emotionally and financially.

Thankfully I'm going on holliday for a few weeks with someone relatively soon, my grandma has been reluctant to let me go but i think my grandad may have persuaded her? What should I do to stop feeling so suffocated?

(I also can't get a job just yet because I'm only home for a month before moving back to uni, which is a shame because I'd really like to work as a way to get away)

I just need advice on what to do