How can I be more effective?
So my question(s) come in multiple parts, feel free to answer none, all or in part; I'm not sensitive about the topic, so please don't reserve yourselves for my sake. I genuinely wish to be the best feminist that I can and wish to ask people who are more experienced and more serious than myself to get some wisdom in how to become one.
I am a non-passing trans woman.
My first question is - are there behaviors that I could/should engage in that, if they were performed by a cis woman, would typically be seen as in support of the patriarchal standards of society?
Eg shaving - I do shave most places most of the time. This act is largely patriarchal. For most cis women this both serves as a means to better fit into what's expected and as a subtle cue to other women that they should be shaving too. I'm not keen on choice feminism and understand the ramifications of one class member's actions on another.
In my case and others like me, however, it could be seen one of two ways to me -
1 - as a means of somewhat fitting in, it disrupts the presumption that gender and gender roles are binary and fixed, reinforcing the notion that we can step outside of the confines of what society has taught and expected of us.
Also 2 - it reinforces the notion that actually yes, this is what is expected of the gender class. I'm reinforcing that behavior for cis women regardless.
It could be both. That I am non-passing is key here; I of course understand that such a term is not overly definitive and that the same standards would apply to a trans woman perceived as cis in those scenarios. I'd love to know of examples that you could think of whereby performing gender could be instead of conformity to a norm in actuality exclusively, dare I to dream, to be of benefit rather than harm. I understand the potential for me to be thinking in these terms as a lazy and low-effort way for me to avoid accepting my conditioning by patriarchal standards (ie well none of this applies to me of course, I'm above all this ohoho)
Next question - to what extent could my actions be definitively anti-feminist, with the exception of obviously joining right wing political movements, sharing propaganda that is either bioessentialist in nature and so forth? Ie, are there actions cis women could perform that would be feminist in nature that become anti-feminist were I to perform those same actions with the same intent?
E.g I genuinely can't think of much outside of ludicrously convoluted scenarios.
Final question - is there anything I can do rather than a cis woman (or man, for that matter) that would be more effective as a means of propagating feminist sentiment?
Thank you for reading, and for any answers you may have for me. Again, I just wish to be the best that I can be. I hope you are all well, and having a good day.