I feel that I’ve become too dependent on my husband
I ‘23F’ and my husband ‘22M’ have been together for nearly three years, married for one.
The issue that I am having is I fear that I’ve become too dependent on my husband and I’m afraid of pushing him away. For backstory, we have been inseparable from the first day we hung out. We’ve spent nearly every day together in our relationship.
In December he got a job offer for a company about 1 and 1.5 hours away. They offered him great pay and a chance to grow within the company. He’s kept his lesser paying job part-time where we live so he travels to work a lot.
I got a job last month here where we live that gives me a chance to work with the career that I want. The issue is we have complete opposite schedules. When he goes into work, I’m clocking out. When I’m clocking in, he’s not home yet. I go days without seeing him.
The good thing is we have two days off together that we spend and I love those days. But I realized that when I can’t see him or call him, I begin to get distraught and will start spamming him, which causes him to be annoyed. There are times where he doesn’t want to talk to me because he’ll want time to himself or talk to his family which I completely respect, but I also get sad he doesn’t want to talk to me.
I realize this is an issue and I want to fix it because I don’t want to lose him for being too obsessive. I only have one friend and she is working opposite of me or with her own boyfriend. I’ve tried to make friends at work or find people to hang out with so I’m not solely relying on my husband but I feel like every time I try, no one responds to me or plans fall through. It makes me feel as if no one wants to be my friend.
So my main question is: what can I do to be less dependent on him? What can I do to better myself so I’m not feeling like he’s all I have?
TLDR; I’ve become too dependent on my husband, what can I do to better myself?